First of all I rarely remember my dreams. For some reason I have had a similar dream for about the last week evry time the dream feels more real and I remember more detail. The dream is that my boyfriend/father of my children is leaving me for another women that he has gotten pregnant, I know this cant be true because my man is currently incarserated, however before his incarceration I had found out he cheated on me and we were on the verge of breaking up, then he went to jail. This dream feels VERY real and I wake up crying and very upset. I dont know what if anything that my subconsious is trying to tell me or how to make these horrible dreams stop. Please help!!!
2006-11-02 16:44:06 · 8 answers · asked by Susie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, in your case, dreams are very much based on actual events. It is no surprise that you would dram about you boyfriend that way. He was in jail because he did something wrong. Dreaming of him doing something unfaithful to you is equivalent to guilt conscience you have in him.
You projected him to be wrong doing in cheating. However, that is a protection mechanism in your end. You are trying to tell yourself that it is impossible. However, sometimes our subconscious mind is not working out that way. It implies that you feel guilty as well not being with him when he is still in jail.
This kind recurring dream will come if you think of him more and / or until he is released from jail.
However, there is a way to stop it. I want you to try it and perhaps it will work. Right before you sleep, remind yourself that you want to have that kind of dream. By suppressing your subconscious mind, that dream will not occur. It may work for you. But only do it minutes you are sleeping.
Hope it helps.
2006-11-03 02:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both Freud and Jung tell us that dreams are indicators of deep feelings. They are mostly symbolic. So, if you take the symbolism of this recurring dream.. which only you can really do.. free associate it by just writing words on a pad of paper or in your Word program. Let one word lead to the next, etc., you may be surprised what you come up with.
If you've gotten involved with someone who is a criminal, this is indicative of something in you. If you have a child with him, this points to decisions that you've made, either knowing that he was a criminal or not. Or, he may be incarcerated on a bum rap?
The next time you go to sleep, discuss the dream with yourself and give yourself directions regarding how to expand the dream situation and either ask questions as you drift off to sleep or will yourself to become 'lucid' in the dream to the point where you are in control of it instead of it controlling you. Don't resist being upset, see where the 'horrible dream' is taking you and then make some adult decisions when you are really awake to what's going on.
good luck.
2006-11-02 16:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by vertically challenged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, but I personally believe it's at least as important to pay attention to how you feel in that dream - what your emotions are - as to what it is actually about.
I also notice that both dream and reality - being left for another woman and his incarceration - are situations over which you likely feel you have little control. In my experience, at least, when I feel out of control over things in my life, I have a lot of anxiety.
What I'd suggest (and again, I'm no expert) is that you look for things to do in your life that give you more of a sense of control. True, you can't do anything about the incarceration. However, it is under your power how you choose to handle it. Will you handle it by falling to pieces, or by discovering in yourself a strength you never knew you had?
It certainly sounds like you are going through a rough time. Just remember that while you may have no control over the circumstances handed to you, the way you handle them is in your control. I wish you luck!
2006-11-02 16:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by izzy_a_dumas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dream is telling you that he's going to be the same when he comes out as before he went in. He broke your trust and was unfaithful, and he likely will again.
I think your subconscious is telling that you need to find a way to move forward with your life--that you have a responsibility to yourself and your children, who depend on you, to do that.
You say that you were verging on a breakup. Your subconscious is telling you that the breakup should go ahead and occur. You need to seek out any help that is available in the community to help you as a single parent. You and your children don't need to be victims of this man.
2006-11-02 17:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by KIT J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His cheating and his incarceration are not the worst things that could happen.You might be also thinking that he is currently in contact with her in writing. Many guys and girls in prison will write to more than one person to get attention and money. If he was really intent on leaving when he got out it wouldn't matter. Somehow you need to survive regardless. It isn't your job or responsibility to send him money that you need. Find some group for group therapy for people like you. Get real.
2006-11-02 17:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no expert. But I've heard that people suppress their emotions when they're awake. If these bottled up emotions are not released, you have a mental breakdown. To help us release pent up emotional stress, our brains concoct stories in our dreams.
What's important is not the content of the dream, but how it made you feel. Try to think about what's causing you stress lately and try to alleviate it.
2006-11-02 17:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by oskeewow13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its telling you to find a better man for you and your child.
2006-11-02 16:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by sondra s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it might be telling you to be cautious, because once a cheater always a cheater... but i would just be careful
2006-11-02 16:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋