We have decided to forgivr one another for hurtful things but I can tell he still holds a grudge and is often distant and cold. I have asked him several times about this and he has not changed. Today I found out that the baby is a girl and he and I are estatic...How can I keep him happy about us and our family and ensure that this is going to work between us?
2006-11-02 16:38:14 · 10 answers · asked by Beautifulme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
CHARITY
L:ook it up in the bible and have him read it with you. Make it a rule in your home that you both will start using charity. You would be amazed how humbling it is. Good luck
2006-11-02 16:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for just over 6 years, to a woman who for around 90% of the time ignores me. We used to fight like cat and dog when she was pregnant and even more so when baby was born. We no longer sleep in the same room, as she spends her nights with our son who is now five and a half years old. We don't fight anymore, which is good, but I can tell you that even though I love my wife, the fact is that I am not happy and want to leave. I'm only here for my son.
If you and your husband are still fighting, you will be causing stress to your unborn daughter, as well as yourself! Find out from your husband why he is so uptight and angry all the time. Sort it out NOW before things take a notch up! If he hits you, get out while you can! Even if it's only temporary, just enough to shock him into realising what he's holding in his hands!
Blessings to you, I hope and pray things turn out good for you all.
2006-11-02 17:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Melaman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you still really love each other. But when kids arrive, a woman changes a lot. Half of who we are is a powerfully loving mom. We forget that men don't bond with their kids as strongly. It's harder for them, the family thing. They need to feel they are still really special to their woman. You have to learn how to argue ... the important thing is never to exaggerate and don't shout. Don't bring up past hurts either. Stick to the topic. Don't argue when you're tired or hungry, and especially when you just get home from work. Try saying LESS. Give your man a drink when he gets home - pour yourself an orange juice. At night, snuggle up to him and massage his balls (I mean that). You both have so much - each other, one great kid and another coming. Count your blessings.
2006-11-02 16:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try marriage counseling. It is very stressful on a couple to have a child already and then to learn that another one is on the way. Especially if you are having trouble in the first place. If he won't go to counseling with you go for yourself. The counselor can teach you how to deal with your husband and if he is open to it you maybe able to say your marriage. If this doesn't work then a marriage counselor can help you figure out how to deal with him and get out if necessary. Good Luck and God Bless!! Pray is also another way in wich you can get help
2006-11-02 16:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by lita ozzy bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to the doctor and he knows that you are fighting he would say it is dangerous for the baby to have ups and more downs in your emotions (Fighting) your husband seems to care for the baby and if he heard that your fighting can hurt your little girl then maybe he will thing\k differently.
2006-11-02 16:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by devsmash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me too. My husband threw the pregnancy test hard to the floor. Then when our second child, a boy, was 7 months old, he threw ME down and intentionally broke my ankle. It gets worse from here. Get out now.
2006-11-02 16:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men may come and men may go but your children are next to God take care of them first. Men are selfish they want to be like the only kid on the block. If he is selfish such as "we can't afford it bla bla bla " can anyone?? NO ! Children are a gift from God. He says blessed is the man that has a quiver full of them. Their is a reason children are sent to us from God. That could be the child who gives him a glass of water on husbands dying bed.
2006-11-02 16:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after the child comes out, everything will be much better, but if it's like the case with the girl who had the first answer, i'd report it . . .
2006-11-02 16:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by smart_e_pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
well i was there and done that before....the thing is i didn't wan the baby and i took every thing out on him....i beat the crap out of him and he was alot bigger than i was and still is...he took the beating until i had the baby and he held every thing against me and waited for the moment we got in our first arguement after the birth and beat the he** out of me.....most cases that the man holds it against you they do sooner or later take it back out on you....and thats only because they have held it in for so long.....now we are seperated and never will be together....i don't trust him and he still holds what i did to him to heart......so i am sorry to say it won't last in most cases.....unlss you get counseling....and that away you can talk to each other with out argueing......best of luck.....
2006-11-02 18:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like one of my best friends. Do I know you?
2006-11-02 16:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Violante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋