My husband is addicted to IM's with people. All involve sexual notes. I even found out that while I was in the hospital once, he went to a mall and checked out some chick at her work. He says it isn't cheating because he never actually physically meets with people. I say it is cause he would rather get off with the computer than me. I am looking for other opinions to see if I'm just being too sensitive.
2006-11-02 16:24:25 · 21 answers · asked by monkeedee2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think your being too sensitive. Internet addiction is real. Obviously you are hurt by it. It's what you feel is cheating. Talk to him about it and you two might consider going to a counseler. It may be his addiction but maybe there is a reason for him doing what he does. I would also consider going to counceling seperately. It will help you know how to deal with the problem a little bit better. Before you go to counceling talk to him about it. Either way your feeling need to be taken into consideration too.
2006-11-02 16:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is between you and your husband! Everyone is different I Personally don't but that's me my friend and I cannot come up with answer he believes it is because you still communicating in a sexual manor to the opposite sex.
I see his point but however you are not touching and really your not even looking you reading text. For all you or your husband knows it could be a 50 year old guy in his underwear just having a few laughs at your husbands expense.
If it bothers you then say something he may not stop but at least then he will know why your upset every time he gets on the computer.
2006-11-03 00:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bleed the Freak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEWARE OF INTERNET CHAT ROOMS!
Internet chat rooms can be time wasters and are increasingly associated with relationship breakdowns. Expressing frustration over the amount of time his wife spends on-line, one man wrote: “When she gets in from work, the PC goes on and it can be five or more hours before she logs off. Our marriage is suffering as a result.” Yes, time spent on the Internet is time spent away from your mate and family.
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Yes its cheating.
Personally, THe tme that he is spending chatting with other female, he needs to be spending the time with you and only confiding with you.
2006-11-03 09:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already no the answer.Your husband is differently cheating and you no he is.When he went to check out that chick at the mall he went for one reason and one reason only she just wasn't what he was expecting.You should be wondering how many other did he check out without you knowing it.Did he ever meet any of the women for drinks.You will never no and that would drive me crazy.
2006-11-03 00:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He never actually physically meets with people yet he went to check out a chick at her work....
Sounds like even if he isn't cheating YET that he wants to.
2006-11-03 00:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were innocent IMs talking about every day stuff I wouldn't consider it cheating. I have several email friends and they are just that, friends.
But since his IMs are of a sexual nature and he has even checked someone out in RL then yes it is cheating even though he has never had sex with them
2006-11-03 02:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You right. it is cheating. there is a need inside of him that is calling out to meet new people. a simple chat once in a while is cool to freinds but it seems he is taking it a bit to far. your husband may say that its not cheating but do you think he will say no to a chick that asks him if he wants to meet?
2006-11-03 00:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by devsmash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, I agree with you strongly becoz mos of the people of net particularly during chatting online sessions do cheating by telling lies, sexual talk etc. I dont understand why people dont use this usefule media for talking truth and positive usage. If he give you time then he will relize that you are most responsive than the chatting on net.
2006-11-03 01:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by mrs509eb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he should never do that to you!!! this is defiantly cheating. the only reason he says it is not is bc he is prolly trying to make you think it is not bc he does not want to stop. he should want to sit and talk with you than talk with some chick on the internet i think you should make him stop ASAP this will lead to something else if it continues i am sure he would not want you on the internet chatting with some cute guy right? try to be calm tho when talking to him other wise he might not be so peaceful either. sorry if i did not help. GOOD LUCK
2006-11-03 00:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional affairs are cheating cyber sex is cheating camming is cheating lots of ppl think it's not physical so it isn't but If I was to get naked and masturbate with a guy that's cheating right because that's what they r doing.... Lots of marriages are divorcing over this now and lots of ppl r unhappy about it especially women. Get counseling but you r not overreacting.
2006-11-03 00:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by lol_des 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋