How to improve my social skills?

Question

I'm a friendly guy and I love meeting and making new friends. But the thing is I'm very shy, so I find it hard to talk to people I see in class. Any advices to help me build confidence and improve my social skills?

Answer 1

I know what you mean. If you come off shy, you'll come off fearful because shyness means you have a slight fear of engaging into conversation with random people. People won't talk to you if you come off fearful. Everyone is shy at one point or another so it's not like this is a bad personal fault of yours. What you gotta do is stay relaxed. If someone next to you is engaged in a conversation, ask a question relevant to what their talking about. Now, don't like intrude on them if the conversation topic isn't a general topic. Safe topics are anything that doesn't have to do with personal lives. Sports, video games, movies, music, criticism of homework, anything along those lines you could easily ask a question and get involved. For example:

"Did you see the Steeler's game against the Raiders?"
"Yeah, that was such a great game."

At this point, you haven't said anything. You could laugh and then say "haha, I fuck1ng hate the steelers." or make a joke "haha, I love motorcycles."

But you can't just leave it at that, you have to immediately follow it up. This shows more of an interest in the conversation that they're having.

"It was great to watch them lose to the raiders."

So at this point, what have you done? you've shown that you're not shy, and you have a common interest. Now, I don't know what kind of person would be so rude to ignore you at this point but if they're shallow, then you probably don't wanna talk to them anyways. If they are shallow, does it matter? Nope, cause theres plenty of other people out there to talk to.

The key points im trying to make are:
- Stay relaxed, it creates a comfortable atomosphere to those around you.
- Engage in safe topics. Don't interject when someone is talking about depressing topic. Interject when it's something that you're knowledgable about and can easily bring conversation to the table.

Answer 2

In class? Well, you could always try asking people for work you've missed or what not. Make a slight joke here and there. Just have confidence in yourself. It's hard, I know, I'm shy myself. Just know that you don't have to be a certain way or act a certain way to be accepted. Just be yourself, you're bound to find someone with your interests.

Be confident and outspoken. I've practiced being more agressive and self confident with people that start trouble within my friends. If they pick on someone, and I don't agree with it I tell them flat out. Make your point known nd be confident in your convictions. If you know what you're saying then you can't be broken. It's all abaout confidence.

Answer 3

I go thru life thinking this. A Stranger is a friend that I havent met yet. Give everyone a shot, We cant all be friends because our personalities clash. People who like me, find me the nicest person in the world and great to get along with. Well, Ummm, The other can KMA lol

Answer 4

Generally shyness comes from being overly self-conscious. Try focusing more attention on other people than on yourself. If you are genuinely interested in others, this will distract your thinking and worrying about how you appear to others or what they think of you. Also you might focus on making a few very good friends rather than having a lot of casual ones.

Answer 5

You have to practice. You are definitely going to makes some mistakes, but you know the old saying " Practice makes perfect" Promise!!!! Talk to everyone. In the grocery store in line, in line anywhere. Ya sure some people probably won't say much back, but you will definitely find some talkers and you'll be ready later to me some girls. Happy Talking!!

Answer 6

I like many of the other answers, just wanted to say don't forget to maintain eye contact and smile

Answer 7

obtain as many sex partners as you can get.