I am not married but I know some married women that go to clubs. So was just wanting to know does marriage make you give up that side of life?
2006-11-02 16:11:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, but kids do! HOLLA!
2006-11-02 16:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by eddysmomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with going out with friends. Generally though I like to take my hubby with me . You don't have to give up going out and having fun. The things you do give up is being unattached. Does it make you? No, I don't think it does, but for the most part when you get married a person generally speaking wants to settle down, have a family. Clubs are a fun way to get out but what better way than to get drunk in your house knowing that if you wake up it is next to your hubby. Sometimes as you probably well know when you drink it does alter your senses. Some don't drink so why not? I've found though that it is much more fun taking your spouse with you every now and again. But I would say it varies with each couple.
2006-11-02 16:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it up if you go out every week. My husband and I have not been out together since 1998 on New Years Eve. I have started going out to dinner with some of my friends once in a great while (once every like 5 months or so) and we have a mixed drink with dinner and watch the band then go home. I don't know if this is the way it's supposed to be when you are married. I may just lead a boring life....LOL
2006-11-02 16:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have seen... many, many examples of women going down the wrong path... meeting "the girls" for just "one drink" after work... then leads to clubbing, then staying out all night who knows where... sometimes these things turn out badly. Being committed to a marriage means, you have no reason to go clubbing. Clubs are sometimes full of sleazy dudes and chicks on the prowl (in GENERAL not saying every single person is that particular stereotype). Going to a club without your man says: hey, I'm looking. I would think there's no good reason to go hang at a singles-type place without bringing your man. If nothing else, at least consider the safety aspect of being unescorted...
2006-11-02 16:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♥gingeylynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think marriage makes you give up that side of life. I think you just have more to do and more priorities that causes clubbing to be placed on the back burner. Sometimes it is a nice escape from the daily routine to go out with the girls though.
2006-11-02 16:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tracy O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't want to go anywhere without my man and I would be hurt if he wanted to go without me. Clubs are a place to get "hooked up" so why would you want to go without your spouse. "Girls night out" can just as easily be at the bowling alley or at home playing bunko.
However, this is something that is different for every couple. Some people are ok with it but this is something that if both people aren't on the same page then it could create a lot of trouble.
2006-11-02 16:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 10 years and i go clubbing with my friends all the time and i still have a good marriage and am still a great mother
2006-11-02 16:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not always. Its all about trust. My husband and I do things with our friends we had before marriage all the time. If you have a trusting loving marriage then there should not be a problem. Jealousy is the reason there are so many problems. You have to completly trust the person you chose as your life partner
2006-11-02 16:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the couple. my husband and I are not big party animals, but i dont mind if he goes out for a beer with friends on occasion. he works hard, and is a wonderful husband and father. i trust him, and he deserves it. he also doesnt mind if i hang out with my girlfriends, but none of us are wild or flirtatious, and we dont go to clubs. the most i have done is drink with my best friend and her mom. my husband and i know eachother, and if ever an occasion arose that i was invited to go clubbing with the girls, i know he would be fine with it and encourage me to have fun, because i have always proven myself to be a faithful wife. my brother and his wife broke up over the whole clubbing thing however. he didnt have a problem with her going out, but the fact that she hung all over other men, and danced with them, was an issue, and it screamed that she wasnt as ready to settle down as she had thought she was. it can be fun to go out as a couple though too. as long as there are clear boundaries set that each person in the marriage is comfortable with, there is no reason that you cant go out and have innocent fun with friends. but if you think being married means you can still hang all over other men and put yourself in a compromising situation, then you should wait and grow up a bit more.
2006-11-02 16:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about the life of two people together but that doesnt mean you have to glue to each other.
Every now and then we ought to have a ladies' niteout to keep
our sanity and femininity balance. Its healthy to be busy over something else other than things revolved around just the two of you.
2006-11-02 16:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its not really an answer, but a question in itself..i have moved to a new city after marriage and have no friends..and my husband goes out every week wit his frends and come back late at nite..its just been 8 months since our wedding..m i right in complaining? i dont want to complain coz i think its okay to go out wit frends i will do d same..wot do u think?
2006-11-05 03:46:36 · answer #11 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋