My brothers friend used to molester me when i was young.I still have not spoken about it.?

Answer 1

if u haven't said anything till now, i don't see any use bringing it up now.

Answer 2

I have to disagree with USC Chick.... Two reasons. First, as others have pointed out, this is very unlikely to be an isolated incident that just impacts you. This guy could be out there doing the same thing to other people now. Second, it clearly is weighing on you personally. Just forgetting about it isn't a good option. If you don't feel comfortable going to the police/authorities right away, seeking a counselor is definitely a good start; they can also help you figure out the best way to approach the authorities.

Answer 3

You cannot get past the pain on your own. It will always be with you. You should talk about it because victims of child molestation have numerous psychological problems. He needs to be reported to the police because he will more than likely molest again in the future. By telling you could help other children from going through what you have been through.

Answer 4

I think you should go straight to you local police station and report this.
You'll be put in an interview room and the officers interviewing you will record your whole report.

I advise you to do this as if he thinks he has gotten away with you, then he will think he can get away molesting another young girl, and another.

He deserves punishment and it's up to you if you think you can step forward and say he needs to get whats coming to him.

Don't feel pressured to go, I can understand that you don't want to talk about it but the officers will be very calm and gentle in talking to you.
Go through with it when your ready, although I'm not sure what he could be charged with depending on how long ago it was.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

Well you are speaking about it now and that's what counts. More than likely he is still molesting and should be reported. You can go forward or you can report him anonymously.
He stole something from you and needs to face the punishment due him. You may save many children from being hurt by him...

I was molested as a child and I had to spend many years in therapy. Remember is wasn't your fault and you have nothing to be ashamed of.

peace

Answer 6

here is what you should do.
go up to him when all is quiet some time. and say to him, you did this to me. you know you did. this is on you and not on me. you will take responsibility for this weither you like it or not. you have hurt me and made me feel terrible. you not i will carry the shame of what you did forever!
but most of all, never allow them to be alone with any young person. for if you do and someone else gets hurt the way you were, you will have to share in the responsibility also!
tell whoever you have to to insure the safety of other children!!!!!!!!
it may be hard to do those things at first but it is empowering to you to do so!!! and you will be saving others in the process of your own healing...
last but not least, see some kind of councelor. take what ever help you can get!!!

Answer 7

You will always feel better when you tell someone cause if you keep it inside you wont be able to calm down or something. You will feel really great afterwards...trust me. Like a huge weight taken off your back!

Answer 8

I know just what that is like because it happened to me
i know how you feel guilt and how you think that it is all your fault., i also know how hard it is to talk about it,
But believe me you must tell someone about it
you can go to your doctor ask if they can send you to someone who knows about these things.
or is there someone you can trust that can help you to find the right help. or just ring up lifeline the number is .....131114
they maybe able to tell you who you can see in you area

May god bless you and remember Jesus loves you

Answer 9

you just did!!! so theres the first step,

it happened to me when i was younger and the only person at the time i trusted to say something to was my best friend!because i felt to scared to tell my mother about it, i thought she wouldnt believe me because it was her boyfriend at the time.
she ended up finding out because my friend told the police who ended up at my place and told my mum....
she was so supportive like any mother should be and would be...

if u need to talk to anyone you should feel comfortable to talk to your parents or your best friend and ask for advice!

if not talk to your Dr he/she should have advice on where a good councillor would be or he might be able to help you!!!!
i agree with the girl above me too, if you can bring up the courage to say something and stop him u could be saving some one else from it happening to them aswell....
after we went to court another girl from my school heard about him and came forward because he done it to her aswell a few years before.. if she had said something earlier it might not have happened to me.

Answer 10

The "silence" is what makes us survivors sick. Find an appropriate health care professional and start talking. There are rape crisis help agencies in almost every community. Good luck to you.

Peace.

Answer 11

I don't know how long ago this has been. but you need to talk to someone.. go to your school councilor and tell them and they can tell you what to do about it.. Tell your brother.., your mother or father.. If you can't talk to them go to the nearest police officer and tell them what he has done.. they will deal with it from there. but you really should talk to your mom and dad first.. if you can..
but do talk to someone.. you need some help to get past this.. and he needs to be kept away from you for your own safety.
Go Tell someone now..