My girlfriend and I are relatively close; we've been together for over six months and I knew her before that. Anyway, at the moment, we live in different cities so we don't see each to often. In December I'll be in her city for about two or maybe three weeks. Here's my question:
I want to ask her if I can stay with her at her apartment while I'm there but am nervous she might think I just want to stay there so I can "make a move" or something. As of now the relationship hasn't gotten too physical and I am totally cool with waiting till we're both more comfortable before moving forward.
Would it be okay to mention my concerns to her and assure her that our relationship wouldn't change while I'm there and that I wouldn't expect anything different from her?
Thanks
2006-11-02 15:43:03 · 5 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
These are good answers so far!
But I also want to add that her apartment is kinda small (that's why I'm concerned).
My reasons for wanting to stay there are because I want to be close to her and also even though I could afford to stay in a hotel for the time (it wouldn't be easy though..) I would prefer to save the money.
Thanks again!
2006-11-02 15:52:54 · update #1
I agree...women love honesty and sincerity. If you guys are in a monogamous relationship, meaning you are only dating each other, then I see no reason to feel nervous about asking to stay with her. Just the next time you talk to her, tell her that it would save you alot of money if you could stay with her and you would also enjoy her company. Tell her that you understand if she feels uneasy about it and tell her that you'll sleep on the couch. Who knows? She might even insist that you sleep somewhere more comfortable. ; ) Good luck.
J
2006-11-02 15:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thnik it is ok to ask her but tell her your worries, assure he that you are willing to sleep in another room and that if it looks like its hurting the relationship you will stay at the hotel. I think she will want you to stay at her house anyway.
2006-11-02 15:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you want to stay there but not for anything wrong just because you want to see her while you are there.
2006-11-02 15:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Patrice R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd love to have a man like that!!!as long as you are sincere,and honest with her,she should respect that... good luck.. :)
2006-11-02 15:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by curious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never ask,,,she knows your coming ,,,,if she wants you to stay with her she will ask you to,,,,if she doesnt ask you,,she doesnt want you to stay there
2006-11-02 16:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by FOBU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋