are coming over this weekend. Last time they were over things got a little outta control. We ended up playing strip darts and messing around. Only with our partners not swapping or nothing like that. I really liked it. My friend and his wife and I really liked it. I'm not so sure about my GF. We've talked about what happened and what will prolly happen this weekend, but all she really says is "don't worry 'bout it. What happens, happens" My question is... should I tell 'em not to come over (cuz I really don't think she's cool with it) or just take her at her word and let what "happens, happen"???
2006-11-02 15:39:22 · 30 answers · asked by mrbubbachowpuss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lucky guy!!
Don't worry,
Proceed slowly
When I could convinced my most conservative Indian housewife for similar purpose, I am sure she will also get sexcited and join your team.
2006-11-02 15:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
If you are in a "true" relationship you should trust each others words. However, I get the feeling you think she is "not" okay with this. Then you have just reached a threshold in your relationship. The one of honesty verse pleasing.
This is a great time to expand the relationship by asking her to be honest with this and tell you if it is okay or not. Let her know that if she says it is NOT ok then then you are ok (and you really must be) with coming up with an excuse for them not to come over.
However, here is a deeper question. Are you really ok with it? That is a tough question to answer for you because you have already told her they are coming over and the real question here is are YOU looking for an excuse to cancel.
The whole situation comes back to are you BOTH comfortable with this situation. I know you say he is YOUR friend but do you want to bale on this and if so let HER know.
Best of luck to you. It sounds like you have a good start to a nice relationship but there are a few bumps that have to be worked out.
Coach
2006-11-03 00:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Brother let me tell you that women will say one thing, think something different, do somethig else and want something that has nothing to do with any of the previos.
My advice is to play it safe, walk on the edge on this one, tell your friends not to show up and make sure you plan a nice candle light dinner just you and her and clean your ears and prepare to listen to everything she has to say that evening.
You are walking the thin line there in my opinion.
Then again, if you dont care about you relationship with her then wing it and "whatever happens, happens" but be aware that you might not like what "happens"
Hope it helps and feel free to im me if you want
2006-11-02 23:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
been there dun that b careful cause somebody might get hurt in more ways than one if she said shes ok with it then go with it but make sure you tell her if something is happening that she doesnt like ta let you u no right then cause things can get messy and im sure that sometime or another there will b some swaping going on just be careful and remember if you do swap use protection cause there are STD'S out there good luck and i hope u have a great weekend
2006-11-02 23:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your girlfriend about this. Never take anybody's word for anything until you know from that exact person that you can. If she's interested in what happened last time and she doesn't mind having them over again, that's great, but keep in mind that she might say she wants them over but she doesn't want to do the strip darts game again. Just keep an open, patient mind to her answer and see what she says about it. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 23:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only way something like this will not turn ugly is if EVERYONE is on the same page. If you feel as if your gf is not really into this and if you value your relationship with her then your best bet is to not allow this sort of thing to happen again.
I would hope that she would be honest and open with you about her feelings and maybe she is... but what if she isn't? She could be going along with this because she thinks it makes you happy which is wonderful but... if she isn't happy it will not work out.
If you don't allow this to happen again and if she is as into it as you are then she will bring it up eventually. Let it be her idea.
2006-11-02 23:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like your friends are swingers. If that little voice in your head says, your woman really doesn't want this, then don't let them come over.
But the don't worry about it, what happens, happens sounds like she's kinda wondering what would happen. Think hard about how both of you will feel about eachother, if things really get out of hand and goes too far.
2006-11-02 23:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If she were me and I wasn't comfortable with it, I would say "Why don't we go bowling or something?" and try to steer the situation elsewhere.
Unless she is a little wallflower or usually is shy to speak her mind, she is saying "lets see what happens." What she said may be exactly what she means! Go for it, tread lightly, gauge her reactions and be attentive to her. If all goes well - have a superb time! If not, I'm sure the four of you can find other things to do.
Hey she may secretly want your friend - keep your eyes open.. hehee
2006-11-03 00:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Forty years from now you are sitting in your rocking chair looking over the great expanse and looking back on your life, is this one of the memories you want? Remember it is not the things you don't do only the things you do that you will remember forever. Personally I say go for it and see where it leads, you are obviously into the whole deal or you would not be asking the question.
2006-11-02 23:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by redondo69 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
True love never happens this way... Read 1 Corinthians 13 in the bible... tells what love is... and is not! Love doesn't share or ask to share or accept it. Share with so many people and it isn't as special as it was meant to be... doesn't mean as much. Good luck.... if you're not just asking ignorant questions for dumb reasons.
2006-11-03 00:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She seems like she is ok with it...if she says what happens, happens that doesn't sound like she's upset. Maybe she is just shy to actually talk about it. Let them come over, see what happens, she won't do anything she doesn't want to do and it doesn't seem like you are pressuring her whatsoever. I wouldn't worry. She needs to tell you if it isn't cool, you aren't a mind-reader.
2006-11-02 23:43:55 · answer #11 · answered by Muggle 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋