has been with many partners (say over 20), would you break up with them? Why? I don't think I did any thing wrong. I just had a wild side at one point.
2006-11-02 15:23:54 · 35 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I wouldn't break up with them.. I had more that 20 when I met my husband..I think that you need to know what is out there, that way when you are in a realationship you are not as curious. You already know what else is out there!!!!!
2006-11-02 16:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by knlsmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that the past is the past and people really need not ask their current partner how many partners they have had in the past. 9/10 times, they aren't necessarily going to tell the truth anyway. The last 3 partners I've had, I never asked them and they never asked me. However, STD testing is very important especially when getting involved in a more serious relationship after being with several partners. And its a good thing to show your partner your results and ensure them thats the most recent and since you were with your last partner. If someone would break up with you because of your past though, they aren't right for you anyway.
2006-11-02 15:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was really interested in the person I would not break up over this. Sometimes being with only one other person could cause even more of a problem than being with 20 if that one person you were with was with many many partners.
2006-11-02 16:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually with the times now that is a very small number. Some people have slept with hundreds of people. I think sex should be with someone you love though. I would not break up with the person because he had 20 lovers in the past unless there is some std involved.
2006-11-02 16:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, 20 partners may discourage the other person because he/she may see you as someone who goes through relationships quickly without giving them much emotional commitment. Your Sig other may think that your relationship with him/her will be just as temporary as the others. Also, the person you are dating may feel u will compare him/her to previous partners. All these factors lead to insecurity and lack of sureness in the seriousness of the relationship. what one should do is to tell ones partner that this relationship is more important and meaningful to you than all the others and maybe emphasize this with a romantic dinner or something thoughtful to erase doubt from the person's mind. If insecurities are not eliminated, your partner will only think he/she is "just another" one of your partners, thus justifying an emotional-breakup-preventing breakup.
2006-11-02 15:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by yungjaf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are over 25 stds commonly spread through sexual contact. I did not say intercourse either. What you did in the past is the past, but getting tested at least twice in the next year without performing in act of sexual contact would be the thing to do. If this sounds to far fetched, then go find some one else who has been with more than you, then see what you think about sleeping with them.
2006-11-02 15:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by meonhere 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd take an experienced man over an inexperienced one any day! That is not a basis to break up with someone for. A wild side is good, shows the relationship will never be boring.
2006-11-02 15:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all..I think we all had wild sides at some point..if your partner is concerned, you can always be tested if you want to reassure them...or even for piece of mind for yourself. I certainly do not think down on you, and if your partner does then maybe there are some other issues going on.
2006-11-02 15:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by crimson_ghost03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your past, has nothing to do with your future and I wouldn't hold his sexual history against him because it was in the past, long before he met me. Now if he chooses to go back to sleeping with alot of women, that's a different story and I would leave him, for that reason. We've all done things, that are on the wild side, but that's part of life, I do believe that before you settle down with someone, make sure you've gotten all of your running around out of you, it's as simple as that. You've done nothing wrong, leave what's in the past and concentrate on the future.
2006-11-02 15:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is information that should be found out prior to beginning a relationship if it MATTERS to the person. Now if she DID ask you and you were dishonest with her in your answer and she found out you lied to her that would be more of a reason to break up - the lying - than how many partners you've been with.
2006-11-02 15:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋