I broke up with my lover after 8 months of turbulent affair. My husband wasn't exactly nice then..but he changed and i decided to give the marriage a go because of the children. The hardest and most painful part was not because i decided to break up with my lover, who's also married. But i found out the real reason behind he's willingness to breakup. Before he was getting any action from his wife...they even sleep in different bedroom but recently things changed when his wife noticed he was attentive to me..she is now giving him some at least twice a week, so he told me! I am happy for him but...
recently, i found out that he is hitting on my good friend who is also married but not happy. He has been messaging her for no reason and she is very happy with that when she told me. She asked if i got messages like that from him but i said no....what shall i do? i don't want her to get hurt because of this man....
2006-11-02 15:09:05 · 18 answers · asked by angelheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi,
I think it is better you tell her or sooner when he try to court ur best friends's friend. The chain will never stop. If a guy can cheat his wife then he can cheat any othre woman too.
You better advise you friend. Well i know happy relationship is hard to earn. Rather than having bf and u know cheating ur hubby. You told because of the children, right. But are u really living for them. Rather than spending time with this kind of ppl whom keep breaking up.
Spend time with your children, get to know them , bring them out. You know something, our husband's can divorce and remarry and tell everyone this is my latest wife.
The only soul in world whom can't do that is our children. They cant divorce us as a parent and go on telling other ppl are their parent.So let your friend know about it and dont be sad.
Think that you know your lovers characters now. thank god for that.
2006-11-02 15:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by treesha_006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your friend ....when you break God's laws you reap the consequences. You are associating with bad people. Stop and think! What are you thinking? Why would you want to hurt this guys wife? Why would you hurt your husband and kids?
Only selfishness is on your mind. This guy is a player and he is using all of you silly, lonely, bored housewives....and spreading disease and death along the way.
STDs are real and some are life threatening. They can be passed to your spouse. He will know about your affair when he gets sick.
Jesus was talking to a prostitute....he told her..you are forgiven..go and sin no more.
This is your last chance. Be faithful to your husband...love your children and work what is good to your neighbors. Lives are at stake.
Pray for forgiveness and never lower your standards again.
God will forgive in a large way.
2006-11-02 23:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to forget about both of them. Your circle of friends/aquaintances is very dysfunctional. First of all, no married people should be fooling around with other people. Secondly, your girlfriend shouldn't mess with anyone you've messed with, even if it was wrong for you to mess with them. You all need to stop trying to find the answers to your unhappiness with outside distractions, and try to fix what's wrong with you. Only when you are right on the inside can you really be happy and offer something positive to others. Also, rather than cheating, how about being honest with your spouses and trying to communicate with each other in order to work things out? If you can't work things out, get a divorce and only then move on with someone else. That is the only right way to do things. You are setting a bad example for your children. You all need help!
2006-11-02 23:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by lemons 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what had happened to you, as a true friend, BUT leave her the choice on what she wants to do. Also just give facts, do not give her your opinion or what you think about it.
This way she would not get hurt (because she decides, but would be grateful for the information received)
2006-11-03 00:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it. Your life is complicated enough, and sounds like a car crash as it is. Do you have to make things worse? Try to keep your marriage together, raise your children, and mind your own business.
2006-11-02 23:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like noone here has any morals, because you are unhappy in your marriage, doesn't mean you go to the guy next door. If she gets hurt or any of you get hurt, that is your own fault for straying.
2006-11-02 23:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't marriage mean anything to you people anymore.You go back and forth from bed to bed and you don't care.What goes around comes around remember that with your next lover.
2006-11-02 23:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your friend about it. Just make sure that she knows you aren't trying to pry into her life but only that you dont want her to get hurt, whatever she chooses to do after that will be her decision and she cant say that she didnt know or that she have been told.
2006-11-02 23:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Insert_Name_Here25 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Looks like you had to learn the hard way maybe your friend should too,, Time to concentrate on your marriage and not worry about others ! YOU ARE ALL ADULTS!!
2006-11-02 23:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think she will follow any advice you give her, she is caught up in the attention he is giving her. She is a big girl let her make her own mistakes, it is not your problem.
2006-11-02 23:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋