I am trying to get back with my Ex- bf and it seems like he does not want anything to do with me and then after awhile he has been coming around more often and taking me to lunch but on the other hand here he tells me he will call me and then he never does call me back when he says he will and I usually don't talk to him until the next day and he say he will let come and spend the night at his house but he always has something else to do when we make the plan for me to come over. He says he wants to take things slow and see how things work out between us but why does he always put me off when he makes the suggestions for us to do?? What should I do?? Or your opinion and honest one, NO STUPID ANSWERS PLEASE???
2006-11-02 14:50:34 · 19 answers · asked by Ms. Daisy_Duke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't go back - go forward.
2006-11-02 14:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Toto 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best wasy to get something is to let go of it. It sounds stupid, but it's true. Stop worrying about if he calls and all that... start to live your life according to what you want to do... Hey, what if you didn't call him or answer his calls for a day or two? I bet he'd freak out a little. Guys like a chase, and you're too dependable. He may like you, but it's too easy. Make it a little challenging and he'll bite. Guys are way to simple minded not to be pulled into this... trust me.
2006-11-02 23:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest hes playing mind games with you. I really hope your not going to let this go on. he knows he can get you when ever he wants and hes just having you on the side just for back up, or he just wants to play games and have fun. Hes not serious about getting with you, hes obviously not much of a man and still has a lot of growing up to do. he doesnt know what he wants. I really think you need to make a stand for yourself and dont put your heart out to him so he can play around with it. Be friends with him and keep it as that, dont try to work things out, at least not yet. And make it clear, next time he wants to get together tell him yep, than dont show up. He will hate it, and it will bug him. Give him his own taste of his medicine. He wont like it and he will than know how it feels. Go out with other guys just as friends but dont make it clear to him they are friends, make him jealous and clear that you are not waiting on him to grow up and if he doesnt soon make it clear to you that he want you and only you that you are not waiting and he better hurry because you are wanting something great with someone either it be him or not. Its your choice if you want things to get better in your life so best thing is to get your heart back and keep it safe for now.
2006-11-02 22:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you want a man that's going to treat you with respect, right? So start treating yourself with respect by dumping this guy! He's obviously just using you for a "roll in the hay" when it suits him, and no man will respect a woman who allows herself to be walked over like that. Hold your head up, and learn from this mistake, because that's what it sounds like it was sweetie, an error in judgment on your behalf. Walk with dignity, and that's how you will be treated, you'll see! God bless!
2006-11-02 22:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First darling there is a reason why he is an "ex". I am going to speculate here and say that the reason he is doing these things is because he is used to you, its a habit and brings him some level of comfort and stability, training wheels if you would, but I honestly don't think he wants to really get back with you.
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HOpe it helps
2006-11-02 22:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't really say, but it sounds like there might be another girl in the picture. (cause what guy doesn't want a girl in his bed at night?) Maybe he is trying to decide between you two. but who really knows. All I can say is that you broke up for a reason (i know you've heard it 100X before). But please try to focus on that and try dating someone else. It is the best cure for getting your mind off someone. and let me tell you i feel your pain. you love your ex, but trust that you can start to love someone else.
good luck
2006-11-02 22:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by jay-z8900 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to revert back to child hood. Remember the game Keep Away?
Yeah that's what you should do. KEEP AWAY FROM HIM.
Move forward, improve your own life. Don't keep waiting for someone who doesn't seem like they're worth it.
Good luck!
2006-11-02 23:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard it takes two to tango? well it sounds like you are trying to make things work but he is unwilling. I think i would save all that energy for someone who also wants a relationship. one might speculate what your b/f is doing or thinking but i think actions speak a lot louder than words and or promises and it sounds like by his actions he is unwilling to have an honest relationship with you.
2006-11-02 23:10:58 · answer #8 · answered by jemc7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take some time away from him to sort out my real feelings and get a better picture of what is going on. Maybe the break will make him realize what he has and he will try harder in your relationship.
2006-11-02 22:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by blondeclan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a feeling he's treating you like his "stand-by" girl. He knows you are going to be there, so if nothing better comes around, he's got you to fall back on. You need someone who TRULY wants to be with you.
2006-11-02 22:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Kaaren1969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wants you, but he doesnt wanna the same old drama having girlfriend. he doesnt wanna have anything serious.....
u should find somebody new- remember why did u brok up with him> thing about those things....probably there was a reason, so why do u wanna go there again. i believe that u can find someone better then that.
2006-11-02 22:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋