How can a person with low self esteem who has always made wise cracks and attempts at humor?

Question

sometimes really funny other times to the point of ridiculous,in an attempt to get attention or make friends ,usually failing ultimately,I need to overcome this behaviour and learn how better to interact,
in a positive way

Answer 1

i think u have my proble, i grew out of it, especially when you realize your scaring away girls! you dont have to act like a clown for ppl to notice you, and if you do they notice a clown! if you think your jokes are not funny, chances are they're even less funny than that. i woul make an effort to stop making wisecracks, and start just talking to people, aproach a girl and just stir up a conversation, dont be in it to pick her up, just talk to her calmly, no dumb jokes, be interested in her, ask about her, dont just talk about yourself unless she asks, dont make any jokes about yourself or she'll think your a joke. talk normally, act normally, dont expect anything from her and just have fun being a part of the cobnversation, enjoy yourself and i'm sure your urge to be a clown will pas when you see the better results (oh by the way dont give up it may take some tries to not accidently blurt out something dumb that'll just put her off)

Answer 2

The humor is just to cover up for the part of him who is afraid to be his or her own self, afraid that other people wont like them or accept them. You must believe in yourself, and be yourself, and not put on an act, and if people don't accept you for who you are that's their problem. Getting attention just anyway isn't the answer! You must make friends by being a thoughtful, helpful friend to people, and then you will have friends for life. I know a person that just sounds like the description you gave. He is going through his whole life trying to be funny to get attention from friends, and strangers, and even family. Guess what? It gets old after a while, and you get sick of their silliness! Actually to be honest with you, its my husband. I am so tired of it all. I just wish he would grow up and act like a man his age. He has been this way all his life, and it was cute at first, but it has become tiring. He cant see it though, he tells the same jokes over and over, and when we go to friends, he tries to be funny, but it is just sad and old. You are a good person, and I'm sure you have alot to offer people other than jokes and amusement, so be yourself, and I'm sure you will attrack the right people! Take care, and good luck in life!

Answer 3

Find something you like to do and are good at. It can be archery, card games, bird watching, whatever interests you. Join some group where others like it too and strike up a conversation or join one about the topic.

I used to do that alot until I took alot of different classes and grew more personable. I bet you are a little shy. I wasn't really shy, I was a social bee to the point I over talked all the time and wore people out. I learned to listen. Listening is very valuable. I'm a pet grief counselor, volunteer, now, I deal with tons of people. I'm also a support group owner.

I learned that it doesn't matter to me what people think, I am me, what you see is what you get, and if you don't like me, that's your problem. You have to learn that.

Answer 4

make sure your wise cracks arent just stupid to other people. be yourself, and people who would want to be your friend will come forward.