I have an older friend that sometimes treats me crazy because I am a great deal younger than her. Help!?

Question

We became really close when my mother died. I tell her everything. She knows about all my deep secrets. She has two small children... 5 and 2. She says I have became one of her kids, but I get left out of everything. What do I do? I want to be a part of hers and her kids lives, but she sometimes gets mad when i get upset because I was left out.

Answer 1

I'm sure she really cares for you, but she wants time alone with her children. Please don't take offense if she doesn't include you in everything she does, it doesn't mean that she doesn't care. You can be part of their lives and not see them so much. Just know that she is always there for you when you need her.

Answer 2

Oh Dear, this is a very hard question to answer. If you are in college, I will tell you what my coucelor told me. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. I think it's not a good idea to become too dependent on one person. Perhaps you should widen your horizons, what do you think? I never like to give someone that kind of power or control over me. I lost my Dad, and I became completely attached to my oldest Grandchild, and I had to back off, for reasons I don't care to go into, but this is when my councelor gave me this advise. I need to make more friends, and it's hard. I have a disability. But I've learned that I have to be in control. Good luck. A young mom does have her hands full. If you're in college, can you try to make friends your own age. Growing up is so hard. And remember, what your Mom gave you in your mind and heart, can never, ever be taken away from you, if you were close, and you can try to give that, and your other gifts to others. I hope this helps, I could be off base, I don't know your age, or so many other things. But I think for your happiness, you need to lower your expectations of this woman. I find it hard to be close to someone when they expect more from me, than I'm able to give. And when we expect a lot, we set ourselves up to be disappointed.

Answer 3

Be her son.