okay i posted this somewhere that I have a freind who is a homo, I don't have any problem with him, ^.^ am i a good friend? well recently he been abused by people who hate homo and he been absent from school for 2 weeks already i came over to visit him thought he is sick but he was perfectly fine...........he just don't want to go to school because he got abused, I'm going to hit those knucklehead with my purse someday! anyway...he been failing classes, I tried to conviced him that nothing is wrong with Homo, he is Christian by the way and he said he is a sinful person he deserve to go to hell, omg................No offense but i said religion is just there to teach you to be a good person...the people that wrote the bible is just human.............He been trying to be straight by going out with girl but he just not attracted to her....but more to her brother >.< he can't control his sexuality.........he don't even got turn on by nude girl....what should i do? no hateful reply please!
2006-11-02 14:39:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks all for your replies..I'm sorry for calling homo.....what you think I should call.it..oh >.< how could I forgot about reporting it to the couselor, Now i know what i should do...........I can't act to be his GF i have a bf.............he's a a pretty cute guy there is plenty of girls at my school like him....he alway reject them >.< I really don't want him to change school .....I want to go to school with him >.< again thanks for all the replies
2006-11-02 14:55:37 · update #1
thanks for the reply, I know god will love him and he will alway do, he use to be a smart and nice boy, he alway seem bright and know what he's talking about, like to help other and can make people happy like he make me happy when i'm sad, he can tell joke and alway get good grade......but now he alway lock himself up in his room or somewhere he look terrible now...I visit him almost everyday since our house is not that far away....that sad thing is his family don't want to accept that they have a son or brother that is gay....I will talk to his parent and seek help, i guess he said he deserve to go to hell mean he have an idea of suicide, i will get try my best to get help...
2006-11-02 15:17:45 · update #2
Be there for him, and show him you care, he needs you support more than ever right now. And while there is almost nothing physically you can do to change it (hitting the guys with you purse doesn't do it), try going to the Principal, speaking out about how he and out gay and lesbians are treated. Talk to him about getting an after school club together, that doesn't even have to be all gay people, those that support people them as well. There is love in numbers. And bullies will not mess with him or anyone else when they see he has support
2006-11-02 15:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really about labels and identity. People have a problem with those who say they are Christian and gay or homosexual. To most people you are identifying with two conflicting labels. So what are you? A practicing Christian who has homosexual tendencies, or a practicing homosexual who has Christan tendencies? The choice is the same as with all sin... either you follow the temptation, or you follow God's revealed will concerning it. It is no different than someone who wants to steal. They may have the urge and desire, but they must discipline themselves not to act upon it. Christians can accept your having temptations. They do too. It is in living after the flesh, instead of for God, that they will find hard to accept. Most people, Christian or not, find it not only morally wrong, but will react with disgust and loathing at the very idea. This is despite the media barrage and agenda to "desensitize" those who are not homosexual. Those who have bought into the "politically correct" agenda and way of thinking will accept your right to do as you would like, as will most Christians. They just won't hold you accountable for your actions for fear of being labeled bigot, intolerant or hateful. A Christian will, because of their love for you and God. edit: The bf idea? It's like putting your toe in the water before jumping in. Not a good move...
2016-03-28 05:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all just be his friend-he proabally feels like if he goes back to school he will be picked on again,maybe even worse.You really need to bring it to someones attention like a teacher you can trust or someone before this gets worse.And when you refer to people like us-it's not homo's,please have a little more respect there-thanks! Are you his only friend? If not-then get with his other friends and try to help him,this is very serious for him and his friends need to be there for him>Good luck!!!
2006-11-02 14:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to be a good friend to him. He is going to need it now more than ever.
You might want to talk to the guidance counselor in your school. He deserves to be educated in a safe environment. In fact, that is your school's administrators job.
It doesn't matter if he's Christian, Jewish, Black, Green, or Yellow. What is going on in your part of the woods is wrong!
Keep us updated.
2006-11-02 14:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jude M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It started off with a simple movie, a movie about respect for gay people. i asked myself a question: should i be gay or straight? I chose straight. However, as time wen on, i realised i had feelings for men and realised that it was no choice, no decision of my own. Being gay is not sinful, since love feels right, and we can love, we can care, and we can achieve. I am closeted now and do not know when i will come out, but when i will, i will do it with pride and respect. My love for men, that is my sexuality. My love for people, that is my humanity. I do not hate people who hate me and others like me. Perhaps I shall die for expressing my love, but after all, does love not exist in everyone? For i know, that no matter what, no matter how i change, i will still love. I know my god loves me, and I love him. He cares for everyone, anbd i do not believe a god that created laughter, love, care, could be a spiteful god.
if anyone wants to talk, i am here for you, no matter what.
2006-11-02 15:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jake K 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming that he is a teengaer and that makes it difficult to handle the feelings that he has, you should try to give him the moral support of telling him there is nothing wrong and just be there to help him. You cannot make him straight and he cannot make himself straight. He should see about going to another school and be able to express who he really is and not to bottle it up. It could hurt him greatly.
2006-11-02 14:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kelli 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can be a supportive friend. He needs to seek counseling to learn to accept and love himself. The abuse should be reported.
Best of luck,
,
Tammi Dee
2006-11-02 14:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he really needs help...be a friend steer him toward a counsellor or doctor or someone who can talk to him....I think he sounds pretty depressed...Does he talk about suicide at all??? If he does ---get him help fast.
2006-11-02 15:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are quite right that homosexuality and lesbianism are prohibited and hated by Allah or God in line with your Bible and our holy book Al Qur'an too.In Qur'an Allah spoke that Luth prophet family who did want to follow what had been told by the prophet that they should avoiding and did not approaching homosexuality and lesbianity had been punished by Allah and they died suddenly at a night before dawn including Luth's wife.Your friend has a psychological or mental illness.He should ask help and advice from a psychologist and theologist..I think his parents should be given a right information about their son condition.
2006-11-02 15:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
you're really good friend...
i dun know what advice u should give to your friend ..
maybe u can tell him to study at home and teach him wawt u learn in school ..
2006-11-02 14:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋