we've been trying to get pregnant for 3 months now and still haven't gotten a positive result. i know they say the normal time period for healthy couples are a year. But i find myself getting more and more disappointed when the test keep coming back negative. we've followed every guideline on how to get pregnant. I get my hopes up, only to have them crushed when my cycle starts.
2006-11-02 14:35:11 · 18 answers · asked by mac15 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It took me a bit more than a year with my first child. Then with my second it was almost immediate.
Sometimes just takes a while. Take it easy and try to have fun. A few hot dates around the time you know you are ovulating and just relax and have fun. The more nervous and intense you get the harder it will be.
2006-11-02 14:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did this for 6 years. I have taken over 100 pregnancy tests during that time, seriously! My advice, stop testing. Unless you are really sure you could be pregnant, don't take a test just to be devastated by that one lonely line showing up. It will only hurt more and more every time.
I know a lot of people say, stop trying and you will get pregnant. I always hated it when people said that to me, easy for them to say you know. But honestly, my husband and I started to have problems, and I decided I didnt want to have a child in the picture at the time, it wouldnt be fair to the baby. Had sex ONE TIME, and guess what happened? I am now almost 18 weeks.
Although I do have PCOS, and that was the reason for my infertillity. But somehow it just went away for the most part. In honest to God, one month, I lost 25 pounds out of no where. I didnt try at all, but it just happened, the very next month I started getting regular periods for the first time in six years. I think trying to concieve really does add a lot of stress and pressure that you dont even notice.
I really dont think you need to worry yet. Keep positive, and if you can, stop trying so hard. (pretending doesnt count either lol)
2006-11-02 14:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice may sound a little weird. Stop trying. The more you think about it the more stressed you will be. If you stop "trying" and just enjoy being with each other it will happen. The stress can cause it to take longer. I don't know why, but it worked for me,and it has worked for others I have told to try it. I tried with doing the temperature thing, figuring up what day I was most fertile, nothing worked until I just quit trying. I was pregnant less than a couple of months later. It is hard not to get your hopes up, but there will come a day that the little window will show positive. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 14:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is stress about it. Many couples delay their pregnancy by stressing out.
Also dont let sex become just a means of making a baby. You dont want to do that to your relatiionship. Try planning some romantic dinners and try not to TRY so hard to get pregnant.
It will happen when the time is right. So far maybe the egg or sperm wasnt healthy enough and it was better that you didnt conieve. Look at it that way and you wont be so disappointed. Just let it happen when it happens and relax!
2006-11-02 15:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mary N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just tried for 5 months, and just today found out we were pregnant. WE have 3 other healthy children, but were getting discouraged as well. I just read a thing in SHAPE amgazine about a concentration cap. I don't know if you have tried it, but it is great. A little expensive, but some insurances cover it. $300.00 for a 3 month supply. During sex your partner wears a special sperm collecting condom, you immidiatly sqeeze it into thist little cap, that you insert like a condom near your cervix. It helps. Look it up and keep trying. They say the average is 6 months. You will aprreciate it so much more when it happens, good luck and baby dust!!!
2006-11-02 14:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on the same boat. It took me four months to get pregnant after I got off the pill. My advise to you is to stop stressing over it. You can start by not taking any early pregnancy tests. You'll only disappoint yourself. Don't take a test unless you have missed your period. I know you're excited and want to know if you're pregnant, but testing early is only going to disappoint you. What if it takes you a year to get pregnant? Can you imagine testing early every month and just being disappointed? Don't put yourself through that.
2006-11-02 14:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but try to be patient. It took us three years to get pregnant. I know it's an old wives tell, but put your feet straight up in the air after wards, I'm sure plenty of people will make fun of me for that, but I swear it's how I got pregnant. You may not get pregnant right away, so enjoy your time together right now. After the baby comes, there hardly been any down-time. Any you do get will probably be spent sleeping. Relax, and go with the flow.
2006-11-02 14:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is too soon for you to get down on yourself. It took my husband and i 3 years to get pregnant,since then we have 6 children. When getting pregnant everything has to happen at the right moment.It will happen for you 2 just be patient.I know its hard but don't take any tests,you are only making yourself stress and that is not good especially when your ttc.You cant just say you want to get pregnant then it happens.and 3 months isnt long at all so try to relax. Have sex everyday and be positive,it will help.I wish you luck and you will be pregnant in time.
2006-11-02 14:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by mommyofsix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried charting your basal body temps? Or even one of those ovulation predictors?
One big thing though - when you TRY to have a baby - your chance lessens because of the stress. Try to purposely not worry about getting pregnant and focus on the enjoyment of sex each time you do it, and see if that helps. Or try to relax as much as you can!
Hang in there girly - I wish the BEST for you! And one day soon when you DO get the positive test - come back and tell me because I will be excited for you!
2006-11-02 14:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start taking test to see when you are ovulating that is when you are at you most fertile. You can get the ovulation kit at wal-mart ,,, i bought a bunch of them on ebay that work fine. My friend went to her doctor and got on some medication.but also the more you work at it the more you be let down are that's how you feel. some of us don't have the luxury to be able to have kids everytime we wont one like some people. so be patient and good thing happen to those who wait. and another thing lots of practice makes perfected. just give and little more time and enjoy just being with your partner because when you have a baby your sleeping in is long gone. and good luck
2006-11-02 15:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by jr2kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋