What is the best solution, without spanking. (it does't work)
2006-11-02 14:10:56 · 13 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
She's pushing your buttons on this one. Spanking isn't working, so you may need to do something more to the point, something that will get her attention. Taking away TV time and other normal things is good, but removing specially promised events (i.e. parties, movies, social events) would drive the point more effectively. If she continues, backhanding or other more strict forms of corporal punishment is called for (if not PC). Also, ignoring her when she talks back might work, but she might also learn to ignore you later.
2006-11-02 18:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best medicine for that is not to hear her at all, do not react at any comments or needs, you say things ones calmly and strict , nothing happened= consequences,talk back ignore no reaction means she does not get her way , ignorance to her back talks means she does not get your attention, compliment everything what ever she does good, ignore bad, only good behavior needs to be noticed, as such: very nice her today, you were a good listener ,thank you for being nice,if you get into conflict and you feel like you going to endless talks back turn conversation with question in totally different topic such as ; did you made this picture by your self? i never paid attention how beautiful it is, you really have a talent,..that will interest her in to something other...
2006-11-03 00:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lina A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound strange, but have you tired giving her responsiblities. Such as, cleaning her room up, and helping around the house. If so, maybe a system where, she is rewarded for what she does, and punished for what she doesnt. Such as, cutting, t.v. out , or taking things away. When she does what she is suppose to, try giving back t.v. time, things to that line. I am not sure how well it works for every child, but I have a cousin who does that with her 6 year old son and it works wonders.
2006-11-02 22:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can't answer this question but if you figure it out let me know, I have a 7 year old that knows how to hear only what she wants to, and says what ever she wants to, and a 8 year old that knows everything and is not afraid to voice her opinion when she thinks you are wrong (which is every time its not what she wants to hear). All I can say is hang in there she will be moving out in about 11 years =) Just joking
2006-11-02 22:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jessimommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try your best not to get angry or raise your voice just look at her sternly and tell her I don't appreciate you talkin to me that way, why don't you take a minute to rethink what you're tryin to say and try again. or something along those lines that she'd understand. ignoring her isn't going to work cuz she's wanting your attention and trying to show her power.you'll have to do this alot but soon enough she won't have anything to say when you ask. if asking her to rephrase what she's tryin to get across don't work, tell her if she keeps talkin to you that way she's gonna find out what vinegar tastes like everytime she does it..... dip your finger in vinegar and dab her tongue with it she'll hate it!!!
2006-11-02 22:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by mom_a_Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the super nanny would say. Go to your naughty corner! You can remove some of her priveliges such as watching tv, playing video games etc.. until she can learn to stop talking back! You have to stick to it or it does'nt work.
2006-11-02 22:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Miles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there is an easy solution to this ignoreee ignor ignor her and then point blank tell her talking back is rude rude rude your the adult and she is the child don't fall into the trap of she is on your level because when you do she'll only do it even more
2006-11-02 22:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son just walk in (he is 24) he said a back hand works wonders.
2006-11-02 22:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ignoring it. She wants control of the conversation and she also wants to keep it going. All it is going to do is get your blood pressure up and make you angry. Just change the subject and ignore it. She will stop.
2006-11-02 22:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each time she talks back take something away...something that she really likes...telephone, TV, games anything. Let her earn it back.
2006-11-03 00:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋