My boyfriend has a daughter who is 25, maybe 26 yrs old and she moved in with her dad with her 2 kids, and her husband. This is the 3rd time she has come back home to stay because they financially cannot make it on their own. She has spending problems.
I am 42 yrs old, raised 2 kids alone with no spousal support. I obtained a degree after my husband deserted and I make a very good living. I work a 12 hr a day job and my parents are both deceased. I am respected in my community
My boyfriends daughter stood outside his bedroom door listening to us while we were in bed and yelled in and asked her dad if she should call the police to have me removed from the house.
She is dirty, she doesnt clean up after her kids and never offered to do dishes, vacume or clean the whole time she lived with her dad. The house was filthy. Her dad says I should be kind to his daughter. I think he is cracked. He left a note on his fridge telling her how proud he was of her. She is a user.
2006-11-02 14:10:02 · 10 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I only tolerated my husband's daughter until she turned 18. She don't like me an I don't like her. A month before she turned 18 I just told her when your 18 your out. She moved out the day before. :) Then I told my husband she was not EVER moving back in. He agreed with me. She was lazy didn't shower, lied and even took money. Yes they are user.... Glad she gone
So sorry you are going though this.
2006-11-02 14:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by lilbit_883_hugger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not living together don't. If you live together leave. Sounds like you have your act together, good income, already raised kids, what the heck are you doing in a mess like that? Leave them for each other, and find someone that respects you, and has kids that are responsible. You want to be able to sit back and relax and not worry about head games coming from some crazy, spoiled, kid. That kid will ruin you in your community. You are a much better person if you leave then if you were to stay and put up with all that crap.
2006-11-02 22:22:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am NOT trying to sound mean,but they way they are looking at it is that she is his daughter and you are the "girlfriend". Do yall live together? If so maybe you should get an apartment. If you have a place already,then l would just let them live in thier pig sty and let him learn the hard way.
2006-11-02 22:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i'd move on from that situation. His daughter isnt going anywhere, and do you want to picture yourself dealing with that for years to come?
Think of the long term...might help you come up with an overall answer. Or, you can stay with him and his daughter even when your retired....oh what joy that would be!
2006-11-02 22:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does you being respected in your community have to do with the boyfriends daughter? To me it sounds like you think you are better than her. Because it is your boyfriends house- it's his rules. If you don't like it- than you have to leave. The daughter knows that she will always win over another woman in her Dad's life. If you want her to do things around the house- try being nice to her instead of seeming as if you are better than her!
2006-11-02 22:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
now if he told you to be kind to his daughter and she wants to call the police on you that is a BIG,GREAT SIGN its time for you to MOVE ON,you are smart,have your own career(hopefully your own place) and never go back,find yourself a man of good standing with kids in other states!!!!!
2006-11-02 22:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by QUEEN K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him know that this is bothering you, and ask him to please do something about it. Be subtle at first, and if it doesn't get better, try to bring it up causually. Maybe ask him if you three can sit down and talk about it.
2006-11-02 22:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Some Girl from College 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get as far away from this situation as you can. It sounds like a time bomb and nobody knows when it will go boom!
2006-11-02 22:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick her out but shes his lil girl he wont choose u over her but se is obviously using get a neutral opinion one he respects call his mother!
2006-11-02 22:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by ayj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave for awhile to give them sometime to work out thier situation and come back later if everythings okay
2006-11-02 22:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by cutie1017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋