My girlfriend and I have had sex a few times now, but it is still painful for her. She said it has gotten better since our first time, but she still feels pain and her vagina hurts alot after. I make sure she is very lubricated, but penetration still hurts for her. She is 16, so is her body just not ready for it? Please help. Ask me any questions, if it may help.
2006-11-02 14:04:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
We've tried SEVERAL positions and the most comfortable one for her is missionary. So...I guess we'll work on that one more.
2006-11-02 16:46:18 · update #1
First of all, her body may be ready, but maybe emotionally she isn't. She has to relax more because if not, she's tensing her pelvic muscles, and that makes it tighter,and uncomfortable. Also, lube won't help unless she is turned on. When she is turned on her body will produce natural lube, and also she will open up more. She needs to relax. I remember when I was first having sex how bad it hurt. It took me a long time to get comfortable with the fact that I was even having sex. I thought I was ready, but it is a very scary thing especially for a girl.Maybe you need to slow things down and make it more romantic and find out what turns her on, and slowly work your way towards sex. For women, a message can be so soothing, and sensual, that that's all she needs to relax. Just be patient, and if it doesn't improve, tell her to go see a doc, but there is nothing wrong with her other than she needs to relax, and have fun with it. There is so much pressure on two guys, that it may be what the problem is. Don't give up, and be patient!!!
2006-11-02 14:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by rose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Generally, it just takes time and experience for it to hurt less. People tend to not talk about it, but for some women having sex can be uncomfortable for months! It's also one of those things where she won't know whether it will hurt or not until you penetrate, which can be frustrating. As long as she's still comfortable, continue to use a good lubricant (and not JUST the lubricant that comes on the condoms), relax, and keep trying.
2006-11-02 14:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by hollybug_88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend Has Pain During Intercourse
2016-12-11 17:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even at the age of 27, I still feel pain during and after sex on occasion. My friends say the same thing. The vagina is elastic and it gets tight when nothing is penetrating it. I would guess that's why. I wouldn't worry, but I hope you're using birth control.
2006-11-02 14:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by lexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dr once told me that sometimes the penis is hitting against an internal organ, and the man should try to re-adjust his position. Or it could be that she has a small cyst (this is very common in females). If the pain persists, she should consult a dr just to make sure everything is ok.
2006-11-02 14:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be many causes. 1. she is m=not yet mature enough. 2 you may not be a good fit (sorry)
3 she may have some underlying complication such as endometrosis. 4 maybe there is a Herpes factor or some other STD.
Before you attempt that again, have her see a Dr. (yourself too) Pain with intercourse could lead to things you never want to know but you both can't afford to be ignorant about.
After you & she have slept with eachother AND everyone you slept with, you did too.
If you have to ask this question you are too imature to be having sex. Period.
2006-11-02 14:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Smurfetta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might be too thick or too long for that. Try not going in all the way and see if that helps. or it could be that her body still isn't adjusted to having sex, which means go at it like rabbits until it stops.
2016-03-28 05:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be many things. First she is only 16. Second of all it also depends on how big your penis is. A woman's vagina can only stretch so much.
2006-11-02 14:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by heartyangel98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try different positions let her be in control so she can find a position that is more comfortable for her.
2006-11-02 15:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf does not lyk to change the position because it's painfull for her...almost the same problrm. just go slowly and it will get better. that's wht we also do... now she is improving...
2006-11-02 14:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by lionceau 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋