our family consist of 7 family members.... them 2 and 5 of us.. me being the oldest... he blames that is because of my mom's side of the family is the one responsible for our family been destroyed. i dont understand why. his family is in another state is not our fault that they moved so far that they wont be able to spend weekends with us anymore... my youngest sister who is 6 years old ( im 21) is the one getting really affected by this situation..and my parents are not seeing this!! what should i do should i be the one saving this family or should i just let my parents divorce?
2006-11-02 13:32:30 · 8 answers · asked by wickedkiwi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm so sorry to hear that.. let's just hope everything will worked out.. maybe you and the siblngs should sit down and talk to your parents calmly about how you feel...and also listen to their explanation calmly...maybe you can suggest counselling to them.
it's not easy for couples to remains marriage for twenty years.. maybe it's out of impulses, or maybe they had really tried hard.. if after all the talk and hard work .. they still find it hard to live together, then maybe you should just respect their decision... you wouldn't want to see your parents unhappy living together right??
all the best.. and good luck to you!!
2006-11-02 13:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by cheesecake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to help your siblings and especially your little sister who is suffering. However, there is probably more to it than what your father said over time and is probably more complicated. Your little sister and all your siblings need you now more than ever. There are support groups out there for kids from single parent or divorced families. How about locating them and handing them to your mom? Just tell her that your sister might enjoy joining this group. I doubt you can save the marriage if neither want to work on the situation. I have known a couple of adults who tried when one spouse did not want to fix it and failed miserably. You should let them divorce but be there for your younger siblings. I know you mean well in trying to save the family, but your siblings need you even more now than ever.
2006-11-02 15:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents divorced after 22 years of marriage and at the time I was only 10,I had no other siblings to help me get through that time of my life and it has an impact today on my look at relationships.There is nothing you can do to stop the divorce you have to accept whatever they decide to do but never blame one person, it takes 2 to make a relationship work and alot of sacrifies.The main thing is to continue to love both your parents whatever they decide and stick together as brothers and sisters. You will need to rely on each other and talk about how it all makes you feel,God bless you and keep you through this
2006-11-02 13:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by meletha122694 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't really see as you have a choice in the matter of your parents getting divorced. All I think you can do is be the
big sister, and be there for the family!
2006-11-02 13:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 04:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend as much time with your sistier as possible, your parents are not explaining it all to you, and they don't feel they should have to. there is something going on that is out of the sight of your eyes, and to protect the children they are blaming an innocent party. let them do what they feel they have to , and be there for your sister. because she need your quality time more then anything
2006-11-02 13:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They're adults. There's absolutely NOTHING you can do. You're not to blame but you're also not going to be able to do anything to fix the problem. They have to do it themselves. If they feel that it's over, then it's over.
Honestly, let them deal with it.
2006-11-02 13:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray that it all works out.
I dont believe there is much you can do but be there for your family.
2006-11-02 13:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋