me and my hubby just had a fine dinnerand we came home.now while he was surfing the internet i just rubbed his face and he told"u r annoying" and i felt bad and i said"dnt dare to talk to me".now he is upset and went on a drive .the thing is he said bad things about my dad(i luv my dad sooooo much) and i felt bad.what should i do??i am not really sorry about it.i even want to tell him that i get upset whenever he talks about my dad ...what do i do?no rude answers
2006-11-02 13:24:52 · 7 answers · asked by Just another gal 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
we have a really good relationship but i am kina daddy's little girl and hate if someone says anything about my dad even if it is a joke and it was a joke.i dunno what to do
2006-11-02 13:32:00 · update #1
Never go to bed angry. Not only will you have a hard time falling asleep, you'll end up with sore muscles. Also, it's bad for a marriage to have unresolved issues; you'll have to deal with them again tomorrow morning.
Wait up for him, and when he gets back talk to him about this. Ask him why he said those things about your father. True or not, it is disrespectful to you when he insults your family. Then let him know that you love your dad, and you would like it if he could refrain from making hurtful comments about him when you are around. If he feels the need to rant about his in-law(s), and most of us do from time to time, ask that he please talk to his friends or his own family about it instead of telling you.
Then apologize for getting so upset at him, and not handling this the way you should have. Yes, he was wrong, but so were you. This wasn't something that should have sent you over the edge where you felt the need to tell him not to talk to you. The next time a problem like this arises, calmly explain to him that he is entitled to his opinion, but you disagree.
I have no clue about why he said you are annoying for rubbing his face (assuming that is the reason.) So talk to him about that as well. Maybe he has something against having his face rubbed. So if he does, then gently remind him that you didn't know, but will try to avoid doing that in the future.
You weren't exactly clear in your details, so maybe I read this wrong. But whatever it is that annoyed him and upset you, make sure you find out what it was, tell him what he did, and find a compromise that will keep both of you happy in the future.
2006-11-02 13:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your nice evening being ruined. Was your husband upset about something- maybe work? Even if he HAS things on his mind, though, verbally attacking your father when he knows full well how much you love him is unfair and unkind and totally unnecessary. From the way you described things, it doesn't sound as though you did anything to feel bad about or should be sorry for. I would try to just relax and chill out- get in comfy jammies, have a nice cup of tea and veg-out in front of the TV, or read a good book, just do something to take your mind off what happened. If your husband comes home and he is still upset, and acting nasty, just tell him good-night and go to bed. I have frequently written letters to my husband and put them in his lunch box. I am much more able to express my feelings after I have had a chance to calm down, rather than trying to get a point across to someone who is NOT in a rational frame of mind, and when I am also upset. Anyway- I hope your husband comes home calm and contrite. :)
2006-11-02 13:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you constantly put him in the position of 2nd best? Why is he constantly having to compete with your daddy? If you would grow up and act like a woman instead of a girl and treat him as the #1 man in your life, he and your daddy might actually end up friends.
Can you imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and all you ever heard about was "mommy"? "Mommy cooks it better", "I want to know what Mommy thinks about this", "let's ask Mommy", "I can't go tonight, I promised Mommy I'd go with her to the mall".
How much of that would you take? You are supposed to leave your parents and bond to each other. Grow up.
2006-11-02 13:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by Realty Shark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you and your husband are having serious issues that have nothing to do with this particular arguement. I would take a step back and wait till tomorrow, not when he gets home, to talk things over. It's amazing how trivial it will seem after a good nights sleep. But when you do speak to him, don't end it with the latest argument. Find out what the sorce our relationships problems.
2006-11-02 13:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ria L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you need to share with him how it makes you feel when
he says things about your Dad. He probably knows that it
upsets you when he brings your Dad into it, that's why he does
it. But you need to stop him now, or he will just keep doing it.
Try to speak with him when things are calm, and just ask him
not to mention your Dad when you two get into a fuss. He Loves
you and i am sure he will try to respect your wishes.
2006-11-02 13:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by lavada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just don't let the sun go down on your anger. talk with him see what's going on with him. maybe he is having a hard time with work or something. don't stop loving and communicating with him:)
2006-11-02 13:26:56 · answer #6 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT AND PRETEND IT NEVER HAPPENED......MAKE HIM PAY LATER
2006-11-02 13:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋