alright, so at the beginning of the semester here in college i met this guy through a friend. for some reason he and i were pretty shy around each other but eventually started talking. we talked for hours on aim every night when we weren't all hanging out an we would flirt like crazy, yet when we were hanging out in person, we were shy around each other again. suddenly, he stopped talking to me on aim and rarely communicatates with me when we are all hanging out. we share the same friends. he talks to them but not me. so in return i don't say much to him. his best friend here hangs out with me all the time, so i guess i don't smell bad ha. this sucks because i like him so much. i don't know why. he's constantly on my mind and it hurts so bad. i want to confront him about it but he's not really one for confrontation. i guess he's immature or something i dunno. people have told me to move on and find someone better. but they don't understand. i've fallen hard for this boy. PLEASE HELP
2006-11-02 13:07:45 · 11 answers · asked by blessbtbam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he's a good boy and is abstaining until marriage so sex has nothing to do with it. i dooo hang out with his best guy friend here all the time and he has made a couple of joking remarks about us being 2 love birds but he knows i don't like his friend like that. plus, he talks to my best friend more than he talks to me so he has no right to say anything like that... i know for a fact that he doesn't like my bff more than a friend, trust me lol. i'm seriously thinking of just letting him find out that i like him but i dont want to make things akward for him since his friends are my friends and so on.
2006-11-04 18:53:38 · update #1
He's just not that into you. You may be giving off to strong of a vibe of how much you like him and it scared him because he doesn't want any commitment to a girl right now.
He's not worth your time now, really. You can't waste your time trying to find out what his problem is. If it's meant to be it will happen, maybe not this year, maybe not next year, but later. He might be the right guy, but it's the wrong time.
Don't pursue him any more, delete him from your IM. Don't bad talk him though, just pretend like your friendship is cooled off for now.
2006-11-02 14:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing a college game.... So you can do the same.. Play it also.. Its a mind game. You know the ignoring game and its making you nuts and he knows it. He also likes it so do the very same to him. Don't look at him. If he walks in one room then you walk out the other side. Be where he is but don't look at him and ignore him back. He is use to you looking at him while he is being cool and ignoring you. So do it back.. Keep doing it until.. thats right until you get the results you want. I promise you he will eventually come around. You will probably hear from him on AIM. Don't tell anyone what you are doing. Alway be having fun when you know he is around and completely isolate him until he stops. Let me know how is goes
2006-11-02 13:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl move on you just started college which means you have a whole life ahead of you. Don't waste your time over a man that does not want to be bother. Hell he is in college he might just be there to see how many girl he can get with
2006-11-02 13:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something must have happened that turned him off. Guys won't tell you and it may be something so small you will never think of what it may be. Guys don't like confrontation with girls or to talk about their feelings. You shouldn't waste your time chasing a fantasy.
2006-11-02 13:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Brian E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some of the same friends why don't you have them find out what happened? There has to be a reason and I would sure find out why!
2006-11-02 13:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. you fell hard for this boy and you cant help but to like him. you want to be with him ut obviously know that you cant. maybe you should try to move on, but keep that place for him. he probably lost his interest for a while but show him what he is missing. and your right he is just too immature to hold a relationship and you shouldnt hurt your self for that. find someone ready for you.
2006-11-02 13:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy just started college for some guys they go to college t\just to see how many girls they can get in the sac he doesn't want something serious you are crowding him.
2006-11-02 13:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he too may have fallen hard for you too. but the shyness factor plays a hard role when you guys are together. so maybe you just need to throw it out the window and just grab him and go for it, before its too late and too awkward to go for it.
2006-11-02 13:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on. Something happened to divert his attention. Don't waste your time trying to confornt him. If he really liked you, shy or not, he would try to communicate with you.
2006-11-02 13:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by cece 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask one of your mutual friends what his deal is.
2006-11-02 13:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by stezus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋