Im 16 and want to have Sex but I dont know if I should!! Can anyone help me?

Answer 1

Since you are 16, a lot of people would frown upon sex greatly, especially since some young kids are irresponsible. (Not that I'm calling you personally irresponsible.) And a lot of people end up with unwanted pregancies.

If it were me, I would hold off for a while, and I know it can be tempting, but it will be better for you in the long run.

Answer 2

All non-serious answers aside, from my personal experience, if I could do it all over again, I would not have had sex before I was married. Yes, sex can be great and wonderful, but what no one told me at the time was that sex is so much more than the physical feelings. I spent a lot of time thinking, "I just had sex with this young man and now he's treating me like this. What does it all mean?" etc. I think if you want to feel the physical feelings, you should set a little private time aside and explore your own body. In my opinion, and in a lot of people's opinions, exploring ones body is much safer, and in all seriousness, if you know your body, when you do finally decide to make love for the first time, you will know what feels good and what doesn't. You will know when you are ready.

Answer 3

Ok Sex is good but only if it is with the right person. Not with some guy you have a crush on at school. Just think, how long do you think the relationship is going to last? If you don't know just think about some of your friends that have had sex with other guys how long did their relationship last? Another thing, if you do, is he going to go back to school and tell everyone, because this is your first time and maybe not his, so he might say some things about your experience that might hurt your feelings, because amybe he has more experience than you. And you know how guys are or if your a guy how girls are. No matter what you think he or she will go back and tell theirs friends and that friend will tell another and by the end of the week the whole school will know and it will go from you to just having sex, to you had sex and oral sex and your going to have his baby or something so think before you do because it is only one first time so maybe you should save it for some one special and not just anyone!!

Answer 4

Why do you want to have sex? Even if you think you "love" the guy, he is most likely not the person you will marry or have children with. And sex is much better when you are in a deep, committed relationship. Don't do it just to do it. You're worth more than that. But if you really feel you must, PLEASE make the guy wear a condom and make sure it is on properly. If you are unsure how to put it on correctly, maybe talk to a school nurse or sex ed teacher. But give it some serious consideration. It's really not all it's cracked up to be.

Answer 5

Hold off.

Think about who you would have sex with: boys your age, pretty much not interested in any serious relationships and very interested in just finding some sex or else people who are a little older than you (not much different from boys your age) or a lot older than you (who, if they are well adjusted and decent, wouldn't be interested in being with someone as young as you are).

Besides the above, younger people are often more likely to be careless and more likely to allow a pregnancy or disease happen.

Even all of the above aside, someone your age still has some maturing to do (intellectual, emotional, and physical). If you get involved with sex too soon you may short-change yourself in a number of ways. Also, if you have a boyfriend someone your age can never know if "all he wants is one thing" if you allow the relationship to get physical. A decent boy around your age would not expect you to do things you aren't ready to and may even be glad to be with someone who doesn't pressure him to get too serious either.

Sex will always be there in life. Give yourself some more time to mature, and you'll be less likely to run into any number of complications. One of the most mature things any young person can do is to realize that 16 is kind of young to get involved in sex and all the associated complications - and just hold off for another while.

These days many young people are led to believe that there is no such thing as someone wanting to hold off on sex, but there are still some kids who are sensible enough and wise enough to hold off.

Answer 6

I recommend talking to your parents first, but if you make the decision to have sex, USE PROTECTION!!! Not only birth control, but condoms as well. When you have sex with someone, you're a link in the chain of all the people they've been with, and all the people those people have been with, and so on and so on. Birth control and condoms DO NOT protect you 100%, so this is not a decision to be made lightly. Talk to the other person first as well, this is a good test. If your not mature enough to have an adult conversation about sex, then you are not mature enough to experience it. You only get your first time once, so be careful. ( I recommend waiting, my husband is the only person I've been with, and I wouldn't change that for the world).

Answer 7

i thought i was ready and i got pregnant at 16, i wish i would have waited but now i am married and happy now.cant go out with my friends though and sex comes with a lot of emotional stress. one you lose your viginity, you cant get it back. you need to know that you want to spend your life with this person because sex bonds two people for life, even if you dont like them. you are only 16, you have many years of sex ahead of you WHEN YOU ARE READY. the fact that you are asking on here shows that you have some doubt in your mind and if there is ANY doubt, then DONT DO IT!! trust me when you are ready (preferably married) it will be worth the wait!!

Answer 8

Don't spread your legs for anyone. You are being vulnerable to men, and it will get you into trouble. I am dealing with a girl right now that had sex for her first time and NOW SHE IS PREGNANT. Save yourself for the right person. You are too young and do not let anyone rob you of your beautiful future that lies ahead... Sex is an action that you do not need to persue. You need to think of something else to do than sex. Stay in school and prepare for your future. Vibrators are the best. Sex sucks. There are too many prices to pay, when you play.

Answer 9

It is kinda sad to read your question, "I'm 16 and I want to have sex." Like it isn't the greatest gift you have to offer the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I don't get it. What else do you have to give but your self. You are so precious, so pure and clean. There is a young man out there that will want to be the only man in your life. You are like a Rare Gem. A Beautiful Jewel. Actually, pure like a Diamond! Don't throw that away. Your special, not like all those others who have "done it" Don't be like them.

Answer 10

listen, you gotta know that's it's the right person, don't just have sex with someone just cuz you wanna have sex. i was 16 was i first did and i hate that it was with the person it was. he dumped me after we did. a little while later while i was still 16 i did with my new boyfriend and we've been together for 6 years now. you just have to be certain it's with the right person. you're old enough to know the consequences of not using birth control and STD's just be careful. and if you're not 100% sure then you should really wait.