when he starts the foreplay and stick only one finger in there it is very uncomfortable and even hurts a little is this normal? cause i'm worried that if i can't handle a finger how am going to handle the really thing, please help
2006-11-02 12:38:11 · 17 answers · asked by snwangel360 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've never been touched there before so of course it will feel uncomfortable.
Take it slow, I was lucky because my fiance took our first time slow and gentle so it didn't hurt me too much and I never bled.
A girl will only bleed if he is rough. It also depend on his size penis, if it's huge then yeah it will hurt more than others.
I was never the girl who experimented before sex and never fingered or touched myself and it still didn't hurt as much as I thought it would, and my fiance isn't small either.
Without any intention to gross people out, I found it hurt when he pulled out more, so there was always a tight, uncomfortable feeling. It's a lot of detail, but how else are you going to know?
Talk to him during the sex and tell him what you want, if you say "Wait" then he has to wait, you'll will need him to stop thrusting for a second or two just so you can give your vagina rest.
Your vagina is very elastic and it's never been stretched before, I mean, your going to give birth one day, if a babies head can fit through it, then your boyfriends penis should'nt be too hard as compared to a newborn!
Don't forget the lubricant, your first time won't have to getting so wet because of nervousness so bring on the lube and don't forget the condoms, also I'd suggest the usual missionary position. It's very comfortable & less painful than starting with doggy or anything.
After the sex, you may feel a little sore down there it's just because you vagina has been stretched for the first time.
It's not a massive pain, just a little tender down there.
Wait a week before you have sex the second time as your vagina will not be so tender anymore.
Your first time will be like "What? I thought I'm supposed to feel pleasured, where are the fireworks?!" but it will feel uncomfortable the first 3-4 times, after that?... Well lets just say... "Good bye discomfort... Hellooo pleasure!"
By they way, don't listen to those who says practise with a dildo, you don't want to pass up that experience of losing your virginity to a real penis. Dildo's are not meant for virgins as their hymen is still intact, your first time will hurt a lot more with a dildo. A man's penis is soft compared to that cold, hard rubber.
Good luck and remember, take it slow!
If you need more advice or have any more questions, email me.
2006-11-02 12:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely natural that you feel uncomfortable. First time sex is usually painful for a woman, and there even will be a loss of blood. That is why you should not give away your virginity casually. For a woman, it is a major life event and you need to make sure your relationship is loving and will last. Once you begin having sex with your boyfriend, a hormone called oxytocin will be released in your body, and you will feel bonded and committed to him. Do not take this step unless you are sure you are ready, and that he is ready to be the man you deserve. Despite what many think, sex is NEVER "just sex" for a girl.
2006-11-02 23:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by ragged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to invest in some good lube. Taking it easy the first time and working your way up to what feels comfortable should be the best way to handle this. I hope that this guy is patient with you and that he understands that he cannot just dive in when you are not ready. The more foreplay the better!
2006-11-02 20:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first time was INCREDIBLY painful, and I was a girl who fingered herself regularly and even experimented with hairbrushes and so on. I think it's best that you're comfortable with your own body before you mess around with other people's bodies. If anything's not normal, it's that you're too prude to do anything with your own body yet still have the guts to want to have sex with someone else. To truly love another you must love yourself, and what's love without sex? But the truth is if you really want to have sex, nothing will stop you. So I wanted to have sex with a guy I was dating and I thought I was ready and in retrospect I was, but even so, it still hurt quite a lot. I was in excruciating pain for days. Just remember to not be so concerned with the sex and his feelings and wanting to have a good time that you don't tell him if you hurt. My first time hurt because he was very large and he did me at a horrible angle. Sex isn't perfect, it's a bit dirty and vulgar and painful at first, you won't really be ready to have it until you realize that.
2006-11-02 20:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex hurts for the first couple of times...but after that it is wonderful...if you are not ready than dont worry about it, but if you are sure, make sure he goes in slowly dont push it hard the first time cause that will make it worse and there maybe a little blood if he has not "popped your cherry yet"
just as a side note
sex is a big step a special step i regret not waiting, so if you are sure he is the right one...then be careful!
2006-11-02 20:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by hermiasdeath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loss of virginity can be quite uncomfortable for a girl... so, yes, pain is perfectly normal. Just take your time and go slow, and everything will be alright. Just to forewarn you in case you don't already know, the girl usually bleeds her first time... and you will probably be sore the next day... And sex will hurt for the first few times afterward, just take your time and soon it will feel great!
2006-11-02 20:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by black_beauty18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the finger hurts because it's not as soft as the actual penis. I mean, penises were made to stick in vaginas so it probably won't be so bad. lol but I've never tried it I'm still a virgin, just what I think.
2006-11-02 20:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Allahu Akbar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to stretch your vagina out. that's what me and my bf did. he started with a finger and then two and then three and then once the real thing came it felt incredible and didn't hurt a bit. but you have to take a little bit of pain if you want the pleasure. :D
2006-11-02 20:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by russianalii 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him it hurts. if you've doen that this really depends on how old you are but tell the docter this (only if your boy friend is within two years of you or you are over 18 should you do this). just tell him to wait untill you kno what is wrong. i dont think any thing is wrong except that your body isn't ready
2006-11-02 20:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it hurts, then that probably means you're not ready after all. Maybe you should talk with him to see if you really are ready. Remember that communication is key in any relationship.
2006-11-02 20:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tony B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋