It seems that in the working world, people don't like to engage in normal conversation. Why...please read..

Question

Like for example, I've noticed that especially in the working world (and I've seen this in other places), that people make conversation like their in a sitcom. Always making jokes about anything they can come up with at ALL time no matter how dry or sophmoric. People seem afriad to talk about real issues in life. One thing I see a lot of is, if there are only guys working somewhere, there's always that group who always use gay humor, bringing up anything they can about phallic symbols, d*cks, whos gay who's not, who acts gay, calling each other gay, etc.

As soon as someone brings up a real conversation about something, people get scared and look at you strange, or treat you like a mood killer, or think of you as too serious. Or they misjudge your character as negative or something.

Is this how conversation is suppose to be? Full of strange jokes and gay humor? Or mind numbing talk about sports and sport stars stats? Maybe people just bore me.

Any one else experience this?

Answer 1

I'm finding as I trudge through this life I find that most people are not thinkers...or deep thinkers. All people have there own level of thought. I hate conversations about sports, weather, sex, gay bashing, yada, yada,yada. To me this is the equivalent to listening to main stream music or main stream news or main stream anything for that matter. They are incapable of thinking out of the box. They believe what they hear on radio and TV is all there is to talk about, they don't understand that it's just entertainment for the most part. Tell someone at work you were watching the History channel or TLC and they look at you like your an alien.....lol
I would much rather talk to someone that is capable of exercising there minds and create a conversation. I don't even bother with people at work. I converse very little, my conversations are left for after work where I can pick and choose my topics and the people to converse with.

Answer 2

One psychologist at university, in the 35 years of arguements about
what should be a conversation, only two really pass the tests. I think you
are somewhat over sensitive about the noise level, as if you should wear
a baseball cap, large enough to cover your ears. This is something nice,
educated people do. Cover the ears with sonic mystery, will not actually
change your environment. Because it is TOTALLY impolite to disturb the
room, other people, someone sensitive, you need to move physically away.
Ideas, and discussion being the two types of conversation, that is what it
is. When you recognize that is not the presentation at your location, move.

Answer 3

I have experienced it, and now that I'm no longer naive I actually think it's a good thing. Work & personal life should be kept separate. Many times people at work are not your friends and they look out for their own interests. Polite impersonal conversation is all that is necessary. (As for the phallic symbol/"gay" stuff, people need to be careful. Such conversation is usually against company policy and can lead to sexual harrasment accusations.)