if you're happily married is there ever an excuse for falling in love with another man...like head over heels

Question

married for twelve years, and never felt like this since I married my husband. Oh, and I am still faithfull.

Answer 1

Your still PHYSICALLY faithful, but mentally your already committing adultery. Buy this I mean your emotional bank account is already so over drawn that this person your head over hills in love with has been able to make deposits into another mans marital account. You need to STOP/DROP/ and ROLL away from this other man ASAP!! You and your husband need to talk on some real serious sh*t, and you need to tell him what it is he's lacking, what he's not giving you that this other man is mentally giving you. Tell him Girl!! Say Baby I need conversation, affection, stimulation, admiration, etc, whatever it is you need to tell him, it is his Biblical, legal, and ethical responsibility to provide all your needs, or else you'll be made to be a whore by seeking the attention you want from another man. I'm sure your the farthest thing from a whore, but that's how your husband will see you, before he acknowledges the fact that he wasn't handling his business. Talk to your husband Girl, seek God, He'll provide strength, courage, and compassion to get thru this time in your marriage. Seeking the other man is the weak, and easy way out, be the strong woman God made you to be, make your marriage work.

Answer 2

No. 1 - If you are "happily" married, you would not be in this dilema! Obviously there is something missing.
No. 2 - Don't throw away 12 years of a "happy" marriage, just for a bit of excitement. Talk too hubby. Tell him your "happy" marriage is not exciting anymore, and that you both need to work on it. Any relationship, especially after that long, can become humdrum if you don't work at keeping it exciting.

Don't be misled by flattery and an ego boost from this other guy - you obviously love your hubby, but an ego boost from this other guy now has you all a flutter. It won't last. Half of the excitement is in the "forbidden fruit". Work it out, go to therapy, and make your marriage exciting again. Marriage and relationships take ALOT of work, and people forget to work on it everyday. Don't screw up the 12 years just for a bit of booty, you will regret it for the rest of your life!!

Answer 3

Sometimes after being with someone for a long time you meet an attractive person and start to fantasize. That is normal and healthy. What isn't is letting your fantasies ruin your reality. This is a case (most of the time) of the grass looking greener on the other side. I suggest you limit your time around this other guy and focus on your marriage. What attracted you to your husband in the first place? What has kept you married for so long? He is special to you for a reason and I suggest you find out why. Fall in love with him again! It could be the best decision you ever made!

Answer 4

Maybe you're not so happily married as you thought! what a situation. Twelve years is a long time; do you still have a good relationship with your husband? are you as trusting, loving and giving? Is he? Does he still give you attention, respect you, care for you, protect you? I think maybe not as much as you probably wouldn't have been attracted to another man in the first place, let alone fall in love. Falling in love is really beautiful, but it can hurt like hell too! Think about what makes you happy, it may not be that you are falling in love with him so much, as falling out of love with your husband. Good luck.

Answer 5

my question to u is. If ur happily married , why would you in the first place fall, "head over heels for another Guy?"
i mean think about it ur married now what? for 20yrs ? babe don't screw that up you have already gone this far with your husband, there must be something that hes doing right to keep u for this long . no other person will treat u like that hes ur soul mate and god gave u this man ur husband for a reason. and that reason is to love and Cherish each other for all time ..............
-b

Answer 6

Make me understand this question because did you say you were happily married to your husband and if so why did you go around someone you knew you could easily fall for.You say you are still faithful well not for long keep going around this man and see what happens to you and to your husband and your marriage.Take it from someone who has been through what you are about to go through . It's not worth all the pain you are going to put everyone through just so you can have a little fun.It's a very very selfish act on your part.

Answer 7

well I believe that there is someone out there for everyone, but if there is only one person what are the chances of you ever finding them? Surely there is more than one person, which would explain how someone can lose their partner and still find happiness in anothers arms. What if you meet the other person that you are meant to be with when you are still married? Imagine if your partner died and you fell for someone else and then found out that your partner was still alive, you'd still love them both. Oh but if you want help getting over it, just think about the fact that he's probably **** in bed!

Answer 8

yes..'head over heels' is what it is. it's perfectly normal to have intense infatuations with someone else, you are human after all. I bet when you think of him it is an incredibly real thing, but (and sorry, i'm really not trying to put a dampner on it) it will probably pass..give it 3 weeks.. I had the same and it was just a passing thing..but most enjoyable as a fantasy for a bit..(and as a distracting daydream for a while, maybe for a long while!) you are with the person you are with for a reason.

Answer 9

Its just another case... no its human nature to seek and discover try new things, to grow.. in whatever kind of way, like when it all get into a routine you want to break out discover create a new "world " for youreselves like I say its human nature every one got that (if there honest).. what you can do is prickle your husband to do the same but if he doesnt?.. what this other man is doing for you you , you have to ask ..(do you want to see that in your man).. oh and there some thing like feromones?? you heard about that.. they are dangerous cos you only like the smell of it its true!! (that might be the case to?) you most likely hate the person but just loves the smell.. the smell is a mach for you so you "think" your in love head over heels... its also your own imagination you and only you know what you really want and seek,. so you let your brain go wild and make your own "love story" idolise the situation cos you in a state that you "need" that your brain ,body, whatever will always make storys up when its bored?need a change? or whatever makes you want to seek somewhere else? your fet up with the situation whats in (you are in )at the moment.. you want to spiece up your life , and thats good! cos we all would be asleep if we dont follow our true selves... but just try to get your husband to do the same..get any trick out of the book and ho knows you might be suprised after all you choose him and been with him for many years..get it off him what you think you "see in this other man" when it doesnt work get the consequentions and MOVE on... big step but bless you!

Answer 10

I don't believe a happily married person can put them selves in a place to fall in love with someone else. there was something missing in the marriage for you to have opened your heart for some other man to fill it. so, there is an excuse, just be honest with you're self and the answer will be there. good luck to you.