What would you do if you had screwed up your life so badly, there was no fixing it?

Question

I'm serious. I'm not depressed. It's just the truth. I've made a fool of myself, and I can't undo the things I've done.

Answer 1

Trust me, it is never beyond fixing. It may seem like that now but, cuts turn to scars and people forget and forgive...and if they don't, you don't need them anyway.

Answer 2

How can you be sure that it was you who did the screwing up in the first place ? If there was such a thing as 100% free will. There would be no regrets. But, obviously consciousness must be the sum total of different physiological mechanisms. Some of these are operating independantly of your own conscious awareness. If you did something impulsively. That was not your fault entirely. Did you hurt someone ? If so.Then,you might have something to ponder about. But, if you didn't, stop punishing yourself. You're not the only one on this planet who screwed up a few times or had a lapse in their judgment. And now a message form Danzig; " If you feel alive in a darkened room do you know the name of your solitude. If you ain't got the answer. If you dont' know the truth. If you want the power. Then let it flow through. Would you let it go. Ohh, would you let it go. (3) They cannot end this moment of my life. Show me how the gods kill. ..." If you were in some kind of Porno flick. Maybe you can let us know. So that we can all evaluate it and give you our opinions. You make it sound like you lost a major military campaign and the news is blasting your face all over tv. Do you think you have it as bad as that guy John Karr ? Or someone who is humiliated and exposed infront of the world on the news. Look at Porn stars like Ron Jeremy. He made a living out of srewing and it worked out for him. You can always colour your hair, learn a new language and move to another country of it's that bad.

Answer 3

I'd reflect for awhile on the fact that everyone at some point in time has made a fool of themselves. You can't undo whatever it is that has been done but you can do things to make you feel better about you. Do you owe someone an apology? If so, when you really feel it in your heart, apologize to them face to face. Its great if they forgive you but even if you get a horrible response it doesn't matter - because at that point it becomes THEIR problem not yours. Then - once you've jumped that hurdle, its a whole lot easier to work on forgiving yourself. Just do it. Acknowledge that you are human and therefore not perfect ---so what you've screwed some things up - once you've said you are sorry and forgiven yourself....then you move on with a fuller understanding of what it means to be alive, to be human. We all mess up. Every last one of us. Its okay to be human...it just makes you more loveable. Sending you all my positive energy.

Answer 4

We have ALL made mistakes from time to time! Even the best of us has done things we are not proud of, but we usually learn from them, and move on. When things get really bad, or things go really wrong, I just first think out the situation, see what all my options are to fix them, and go on from there. Sometimes advice from others can help when your so upset with yourself, you cant think straight anymore. Its always harder to solve your own problems than someone elses. I have learned in life, that your most valuable assets, are your friends! Let them help you, and if that doesent work, talk to a professional about what your options are! You are not alone, and none of us are perfect no matter who claims they are! So let people you trust lend a hand, until things start to turn around, and they WILL!!

Answer 5

Well, you can't do life over again, so just start out fresh! We've all made a fool of ourselves, sometimes on a daily basis. Forgive yourself and move forward. Don't concern yourself with what other people think. The only time you don't have an opportunity to do better is when you're dead. Call on God, he will help you figure it all out.

Answer 6

Step 1: Never give up hope!
Step 2: Learn from what you did that screwed up your life.
Step 3: Resolve to not repeat the same mistake
Step 4: Make amends to people who you hurt and ask for forgiveness.
Step 5: Ask for help if you cannot get thru this on your own.
It is really up to you, and everyone can do it.

Answer 7

If you are an adult and you screwed up socially you can move. If you are a child and screwed up socially, you can ask your parents if you can change schools. If you are a child who screwed up your life by getting pregnant, go to an adoption counselor. You can fix your life--you just need to behave better
there's a popular poem about asking God to help you change the things you can change and accepting the things you can't change. You might what to think about that.

Answer 8

That would depend on how i screwed up. Making a fool of yourself is not the end of the world. Take an optimistic view of the situation, and do all you can to make the best of it. And move on.

Answer 9

give yourself a break. nothing is beyond repair if you want to repair it. you hafta wanna tho...and if ya really think ya can't then there is only one way. Live right from this very moment on. no acceptions. in your heart and mind you know what is right....do the right thing. always. from now on. those that you hurt will see this and might come around. those that meet you in the future will be glad you made the change. put one foot in front of the other....and soon you'll be walking into your new life.

Answer 10

I'd start dragging other people down with you.....I mean come on! No one wants to feel bad all by themselves. OR you could stop dragging your butt like some day time soap opera star and make a change or two....or three, depending on how screwed up you are. I'll tell you what you need....a change of scenery. Move! Start over, even if it's on the other side of town, buy a new shirt, try walking like a pimp, get your hair cut different. All these things will help you feel like your life is a clean slate and you can move it in any direction you want.

Answer 11

i know how your feel. just keep quiet, take time out and read the bible. I have noticed if I just keep my mouth shut, everything will be better. So in the past few years, i have done that. I go to work and speak to no one unless it is work related. same with family/firends, I do not voice myoption anymore, people are adults and they do what they want. I just have to know that I am going to follow God word. My life the past few years has got better and I have made new friends. Good luck.