2006-11-02 11:53:58 · 28 answers · asked by jakel07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Funny: Take matters into your own hands!!
Serious: Has she seen a dr?
2006-11-02 11:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by bluejeanrose 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Whatever you do don't cheat, because that will lead to more problems. Talk to her about it. Let her know in a loving way that when you are together sexually it makes you feel closer to her. Let her know that it is important to you that you get together a little more often than you are. Also there are things you can do to spice things up and maybe get her sex drive going. Women love to be romanced. Set a day aside and cook her dinner, draw her a bath if she likes it, and put some candles around to give the room ambiance. Tell how beautiful she is and how you can't wait to spend time with her. If she still is apprehensive, let her know that is how you feel loved and ask her what makes her fell loved and do it. If she's happy with you and things you do for her she'll want to reciprocate. Good luck.
2006-11-02 12:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her lack of sex drive needs to be addressed with a medical doctor. Once any medical or hormonal reasons have been ruled out the next step would be to seek counseling. She may have issues with her self-esteem (she may not be happy with her body), she might be stressed, tired, or depressed. It may not be completely her. She might love you very much but be repelled by B.O. issues, or halitosis, or sex with you might be painful. If you were unfaithful to her or led her to believe you were unfaithful, that can be devastating. If you have said anything to make her feel self-conscious about her body or mannerisms - even jokingly - that can be hard to overcome, also.
I would be more worried about my spouse at this point than about my own needs.
2006-11-02 14:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get in tune with you wife! Try innocent approach, while she is dressing, from behind; hold her close and gentley hold her breast. She will try getting the stronger hand by saying stop, or mean words and try to get away. Hold her firmly, but gently, DO NOT LET HER GET AWAY. Ignore any mean/ugly words. Just hold her.
When she is changing clothes, pick her up and put her on the bed, lay on top of her, hold her down, no sex movement. Just lay there between her legs.
Take her to a very intimate dinner, flowers; hold hands, in bed, do not turn to her. Keep quiet and go to sleep!
One day, after dishes, pick her up, couch, bed it does not matter! Undress her, snatch off the panties. DO NOT HURT!
Say nothing, TAKE IT!!!!!!!, SIMPLY TAKE YOU WIFE.
Hold her after wards. SAY Nothing to any remarks, retorts, nasty words. That is all an effort to regain control!
If you want your wife, take her panties of and make long love to her. Not the same place, not the same time.
Sometimes, in the bed, massage your wife! The leg muscles, inner thigh, do not touch where she thinks you are going to touch! Massage her shoulders, arms fingers, and both breasts.
Do not listen or respond to ugly words. If she try’s to turn away, mount her, continue to massage her, and let her feel your body!
Leave out actual SEX! Don't try to kiss! She might be looking for away to regain control, refusing to kiss supports that effort.
Sometimes, bring a small potted flower, no roses, just a small potted flower. But it on her side of the bed. Say Nothing!
By her a pair of panties, like the kind that she has, do not try for sex. Never give or do anything when for you it is THAT time!
And while you are at it, listen to her breathing, what ever quite sound she might make. Sometimes gentle, sometimes hard, sometimes fast, sometimes slow. NEVER ASK, TAKE!
2006-11-02 12:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
First off i think that it parable would be a good idea if you sit down with her and discuss the problem and find out if for some reason there is a problem or that there is something st oping her from making love to you? because commutation is a very big factor in a relationship and if there something going on then you guys need to talk about it. and there might not be anything wrong between the to of you she might just have hormone problems and might need to see her o.b.g.y.n to find out if there is something to help you guys out .
2006-11-02 12:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by shell 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for a year i had no sex drive but at the same time i was working 11 hours 6 days a week. i was tired. maybe if i knew more about her i could help you a little better. my ex looked outside the home and thats why he is now my ex. he never talked to me about it,just went looking for it. but then maybe he didnt really care. if you do care try and talk to her. if you want to try and pin point what might be wrong yourself first then email me with more info about her and i'll try and help you.
2006-11-02 16:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will have to fend for yourself.
My wife has not had sex with me in 15 years. I sublimated my desires with an intense fantasy life and I write my own erotica.
Sure, it is boring as all get out and at the end of the evening, it's still just me, but I feel that to seek sex elsewhere is not for me, because it would be sex.
For me, sex involved not just the physical need, but the emotional and spiritual needs as well,
I can only hope she will come around. Do what you must in the framework of the marriage.
2006-11-02 11:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Maybe discuss it with your wife that her sex drive is a problem for you. There are pills out there that help the female libido that may be right for her if she consults her doctor. Masturbation is of course the easiest answer but I realize that gets old after awhile. There are also sex therapists out there that can help.
2006-11-02 11:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her how you feel and what you want. I do not understand these women that cut off the sex after they are married. You should try to get more romantic with her outside of the bedroom like give her kisses and long hugs and tell her how much you desire her. Ask her what she likes and how she wants it.
2006-11-02 17:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I support counseling. It could be a health issue, like hormones, thyroid, etc. It could be psychological (like a lot of women feel they carry much more of the load than the man does). Either way, I bet communication will get you back on the right track.
2006-11-02 12:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by hartovalion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a doctor, her hormones could be off, she could have low blood flow or she could just be tired. Try doing more around the house. Being helpful around the house while being sweet and understanding is usually a big turn on for women.
2006-11-02 11:57:19 · answer #11 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋