Are we the "do it all" generation? I am 34 and knackered. My kids are great, we have just moved to a fabulous house, and my husband is a fine and good man. Call me mad, but this is not what I imagined life to be
2006-11-02 11:42:16 · 19 answers · asked by himalayas2198 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One of the first things they teach you at First Aid is don't become a casualty yourself because you cannot help anyone else if you are on the ground injured - this applies to families as well. Be a bit selfish. Are you fit ? what are your hobbies - get some new ones - get out of the rut - buy a different newspaper or magazine - walk, swim, eat out - go to the theatre or cinema with your fine man - make time for yourself - farm out the kids to friends to make that time. Switch off the telly at night !!
2006-11-02 12:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two boys are a lot to handle if your husband is one of those who thinks his job is to work all hours and leave you to do all the housework and look after the boys. If that is the case then I do feel sorry for you. But truthfully, that is life really if you want to stick to the rules. But you should find a way that your husband stays in one night a week while you go out alone to visit friends and go out with them. The problem with this is that being single, even for a few hours a night would make you feel free and in the market and you will attract another mate. And its downhill from there. There is no simple solution really.
2006-11-02 14:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there actually a mum out there anywhere who doesn't find it hard to cope? I've got 4 kids and I know exactly how you feel. It's exhausting, demanding, soul destroying, but it's also the most amazing experience in the world. Sometimes it's really hard to look on your own life and see how great it is, you're too busy struggling to get through each day, but with every day they get older, and easier. The only sane parents are the ones who admit that it's so hard it sometimes seems unbearable. But tell me it's not worth every second.
2006-11-02 13:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by elise h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright your weird.
What did you think life would be like?
compaired to alot of people you seem as though you are doing it all.
these are hard times for millions of people and they would give a limb to be at half your point.
wow you need to look at life in the eyes of the not so well to do,
I live in an area where people work all day too and have kids and a happy marriage and they love every minute of it.
here you go , quit your job, or he can, sell the house and donate the money to childerens hospital, find a small apt., invite your husband to cheat with another, and then you will be happier?
learn to enjoy what you have because tommorrow it can all be gone.
good luck
2006-11-02 11:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by transvainia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Raising kids is no picnic. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Some day they will be grown and gone, and you will look at your husband and say, "where did the years go?" I know this because my husband and I are experiencing the empty house now.
2006-11-02 12:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I work 40+ hours a week and am a mother and wife...I am so busy with many different things that at night I feel like I am going to collapse with exhaustion. I always thought that as the kids got older things got simpler. I must have deluded myself with that one. Please let me know when you get a good answer too...Right now I am thinking retirement is when I will really be able to enjoy myself, but I am afraid I am going to be to tired.
2006-11-02 11:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO THERE`S OTHERS LIKE YOU BUT IF YOU ARE DOING TO MUCH OR FEEL TO FULL OF THINGS TO DO YOU MUST TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR FINE AND GOOD MAN.A GOOD MAN SHOULD FIND A SOLUTION FOR EVERYONE IN HIS HOUSE SO THEY HAVE THE BEST COMFORT POSSIBLE .YOUR MAIN WORK SHOULD BE RAISING YOUR KIDS CAUSE THAT IS THE IMPORTANT WORK ,IT DOES CONTINUE THE NEXT GENERATION AND LIFE THAT IS WHY YOU SHOULD TAKE SOME WAIT OF SO IT`S DONE PROPERLY. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-02 11:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by ivyzoe1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we are the same age and my husband isn't working right now do to some stuff. and am the only one working and paying the bills we have 3 children ages 16 15 14 and believe me yes its hard some times i want to cry cause its very stressful.
2006-11-03 02:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by raven s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its terrible out there, this is for you..........
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-02 11:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you could be in my daughters situation. She has two boys
5&2 who has a worthless s.o.b. for a husband. After 5 mo. she
has finally decided to seek assistance bedause he refuses to
responsibility/
2006-11-02 11:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by chuck m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋