Can anyone give me some serious relatioship advice?

Question

My gf and I have been going out for about three months and have been really serious for the past 1 month to 1 1/2 months. We have both expressed our love for one another and things have been going well, however, for the past week or so she has seemed less affectionate and more on edge with me. She says that it's nothing to really do with me, just that she has had a lot of stress at work and has been feeling down. I love her and have never felt this way about anyone before. I am 23, and thought I was in love once, but that doesnt compare to this. All I want to do is to make her happy. Does anyone have any suggestions? Should I just give her more space? Or should I try to do something really nice for her to make her happy, because it hurts sometime to see her sad. Please help

Answer 1

first of all it might just b pms so i wouldnt worry too much...but let her know that u luv her and u hate to c her like this and u respect her in wtevr she wants or needs and if she needs ur space hopefully shell b honest about it best of luck

Answer 2

First of all you sound like a decent guy so hear it goes give her some space thets what she may need second of all you would not be wrong to do something nice for her women love to be pampered and given stuff so get her something nice and say thanks for being the women in my thoughts my heart and my life that should tug some heart strings depending on kind of work she does there could mounds of stress in any job do not jump to any conclusions thats its something do do about you. Another thing maybe she thinks you guys are moving to fast ask if she would like to slow things down and to really get to know each other. I hope some of this helps girls are just naturally confusing I have bewen with my wifew almost 9 years and still can't understand her moods sometimes. So i hope these will get your brain around what she may going thru and what you may do to help her out if you live together clean the place up women love when a guy cleans house.

Answer 3

This may require some very special care on your part. The most important thing is communication. However, you can't be too inquisitive or pressuring, if she needs some room to resolve her problems.

If she has told you that you are not at fault, and she is dealing with pressures at work, let her succeed at overcoming those obstacles, as it is important for her to know that she has the ability and power to do so. Just make it known that you are there any time to discuss or to simply listen. If she does approach you, try to be helpful and reassuring, but don't be judgmental. She may just need an opportunity to vent.

But do try to bring some comfort and delight into her life. Send her flowers; take her to dinner at a special restaurant; plan a quiet night of relaxing music, some wine, and candles. Remember: your responsibility may not be to make her happy. Rather, you do what is best to help her become happy.

If you love this woman as you say you do, respect her for who she is and make it clear that you are there for her. Always. And when the time comes that she needs your strength and support, you will be the first person she touches. Because that, my Friend, is the true aspect of love.

Answer 4

One of the things you'll find out as you get older is that people don't stay in a certain mood all the time. You will have stress on the job, concerns about money, think about your future...and it can be stressful.

You asked her what was going on and she told you. Beyond being supportive of her, and listening to her when she needs you to, the most you can do is let her work it out. It won't be like this forever, and eventually things will get back to normal. If she wants space, she'll tell you. If you want to do something nice, that's fine.

Don't be overwhelmed and hurt by what's going on now. It won't be the last time things don't work right- and it will have nothing to do with you. It's wonderful that you're concerned, but don't make more out of it than what's there.

Answer 5

The only thing you can really do is be there to support her. You could send her flowers to brighten her day or give her a card or both. Sometimes its just really nice to know that someone is there for you. I wouldnt push her but i would let her know that you were there for her. Listening to her and supporting her is the best thing. I know its hard to see someone you love sad. Try to stay positive and it will work itself out.

Answer 6

sometimes we all need space and time to ourselves.Still be there for her but don't add pressure to her.Learn to trust her when she tells you its stress and maybe she needs some fun time with you instead of serious,,,,,,,get her mind off the stress,,do something fun.that way you're showing her a postitive side of things,,,they say laugh and the world laughs with you. Goos luck

Answer 7

maybe she is saying the truth thate she's stress with work and feeling down about it. just be patient and supportive of her. try to schedule a weekend together to take her off the stress from her work. surprise her with her favorites. and lastly, be supportive and do not argue with her when she's steaming off her frustrations at work. your support is really important for her now. hope this helps...let me know if you need further help :)

Answer 8

Well, if she told you that she was just stressed from work, then she's just stressed from work. I wouldn't worry about it. Take her out to dinner after work or something like that. Hopefully, it will take her mind off work. Good luck.

Answer 9

well try to comfort her by spending time with her. Ask her what's going on at work and see if theres anything you can do for her.If she gets mad or upset and starts yelling at you just try to back off if you know wut im saying:) give her some time to cool down like u said:)