2006-11-02 11:24:04 · 34 answers · asked by linda E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What he is doing is completely inappropriate within the boundaries of a marriage. You need to let him know that he is basically having an emotional affair with them.
Some may argue that point but any time he spends "talking" to them is time stolen from your marriage. He is putting time, effort, and emotion into these friends and it is wrong.
2006-11-02 11:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling. What in the world are they talking about? If they are flirting with him, then that needs to stop, because he is going to start fantasizing about them and might feel the desire to met them. Its okay to have friends of the opposite sex, but it is disrespectful when he starts flirting with them, that coulde lead them on. I met a guy online and dated him for 5 months and had to drop him when i found out he was married. I don't understand why people go looking for attention from others when they have plenty at home. I couldn't disrespect my husband like that. Ask him why is he seeking attention from other women when he has you? If it keeps up I would have to remove some of his computer wires or something.
2006-11-02 11:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a good reason to talk to you. Most of the time that this happens it is filling a need the guy has that is not being fulfilled at home.
If you think there is nothing wrong with your love life maybe you need to talk to him and find out what is going on. If you have sex infrequently guys are wide open to this.
2006-11-02 11:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband talks to women online, we have an open communication relationship. We trust each other totally. The question is, do u trust your husband? Are you afraid he is having cyber sex or going to cheat on you with these women? If you have these concerns the best thing is to confront your husband and tell him how you feel. Trust and honesty are the backbone to my marriage.
2006-11-02 11:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he needs to spend so much time talking to girls on line and not with his wife in real time? If he can't give you an answer that is fair to you and the relationship that you both are in I would suggest either counseling for both or him and if he won't go with that I would suggest getting the best lawyer you can find. What he is doing to you and your marriage is not benifical to anyone.
2006-11-02 11:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your service provider and/or the computer and seek counseling.
Confront him about it - CALMLY. Let him know how much you care about him, how much his behavior hurts you, and that you would like to figure out how to repair your relationship.
Document what you know so far so you will have all of your ducks in a row when you sit down with him. Only list facts, not suspicions.
2006-11-02 11:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to create a screen name for whichever site he is going to and set him up by talking to him while pretending to be another woman. See what he is saying, if he is trying to cheat or lead the women on you need to present the evidence.
2006-11-02 11:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Angel2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion. Ask if you can sit next to him while he chats. Is he just normal chatting or is it of a sexual nature? I saw on Maury show that 78% of men don't think that chatting is a form of cheating. While 92% of woman did think it was cheating. Maybe you should explain to him that if he is engaging in sexual chat, that you concider that cheating. Put the ball in his court and see if he stops or continues.
2006-11-02 11:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by shepherd169 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him.......... sorry this is not acceptable. If he wants to chat with other girls.........he needs to be single. Is he ready to give up his marriage with you just to chat with some strangers that couldn't care less about him? Not nice..... rude and disrespectful. How would he like it if you posted a profile online and started chatting with guys?
2006-11-02 11:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by bonbon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would cancel or put a spy ware on the computer just to see whats going on
2006-11-02 11:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by christine z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋