Is it healthy to hide depression and conduct fake happiness to satisfy your peers?

Question

I am doing that quite a lot lately

Answer 1

OH HECK NO~! been there done that from the time i was 19/20 till i was around 29. Depressed about this thing & it gets better then this thing pops up & depressed again. Soon enough feeling better then zap it is back. In and out of terrible situations life hands you and not dealing with the emotional side of it to keep strong for one person or another and to keep it from affecting anyone else. Till one day i could not cope anymore after a tragic tragic loss and it was 3 months of couch duty and wellbutrin to get me back to my normally strong bubbly happy go lucky self. Take it from someone who has been there deal with it as it comes along and learn from your experiences so you can deal with the simple everyday things. Or else heed my warning you'll be seeing a doctor soon enough to peel your butt off the couch and the unemployment line. GOOD LUCK & Best Wishes

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It is, by all means, certainly not healthy to hide depression and conduct fake happiness to satisfy your peers. The unresolved feelings, such as depression, anxiety, fear, insecurity, and dis contend, will gradually build up in you and become too powerful to overcome. In other words, when you restrict yourself from expressing your true feelings, like your question describes, you accumulate a negative force in you that will eventually explode and lead to a worse situation.

Trivial discontends hidden in your mind over time transform into greater, more powerful dissatisfaction. This dissatisfaction often is the leading cause of why some people decide to act, whether responsibly or not.

But you should not worry too much if you are hiding depression to please others, because your motive is likely to be a selfless one- making others feel better. One thing though you should be aware of is that no one is free of stress, which means that each of us has the tendency to have depression due to daily responsibilities. What matters is how you handle these tasks. Presenting yourself as someone with no depression is a burden, why not let others know more about you and before you know it, they will be your support. Soon you will find that you no longer need to hide the depression to please others because your peers can tell that you trust them and are willing to share an inner part of you :)

Answer 4

Kim,

no, and I'll bet they know and are hiding it from you.

What's bugging you....you have a right to get it out...and get help if you can...if you can't go to someone you trust, then go to a priest, minister, or counselor that you don't know, otherwise:

1. Write a list of all things you like
2. Write a list of all things you don't like, and let it all out, yes write down that bad stuff on a separate piece of paper.

3. Now take the list of bad stuff, and rip it into a million pieces, and throw it away.

4. Now write a list of bad things that you don't like, that you can do something about....for instance...don't like not remembering things, I'm so forgetful....so start making little lists of things to be remembered. Now on this list, start to cross off things that you accomplish.

5. See, this will start you on the road to accomplishment.

6. If you feel your depression, and we all have it sometime, reach out for help....is there a guidance counselor hiding somewhere in school....for instance?

7. You have a right to be happy, and if depression is holding you back, get it out, yes, get it out....one way or the other, get it out,
Do not let the depression get you.

Do you realize that you are already on the road to recovery because you are identifying that you have depression, and you are faking happiness? Do you want to help yourself?....then make the list of good things, and good people and what attributes the good people have that are attractive to you....like their sense of humor, they have a way to stretch a dollar, and so forth....then see how you have some of these same attributes.

Keep going and don't let depression steal your happiness...you Go Girl!

Answer 5

healthy?hmmm...definately nooo...i have done this soo many a times and often ended up sad, depressed,in the state of breaking down...by hiding depression and conduct fake happiness can satisfy ur peers...but u will be living in a state of self-denial...so it is unhealthy but sometimes we juz have to do so...to protect ourselves...to build walls and prevent ppl from entering...

Answer 6

No it isn't healthy, honey - is there someone you can talk to? A friend, a school counsellor, maybe?
There may be some helpful info at www.yellowribbon.org for you.
You need to reach out to someone - can your parents not help you?
Time to take care of YOU and not worry about your peers for a little while.

Answer 7

Actually, yes. Well, not the way you put it, but as long as you're getting treatment for the depression, it's good to continue socializing and being active if you don't feel like it.

Even though it amounts to little compared to how you feel, being around someone who is constantly acting depressed can put a strain on relationships.

It's hard for people who've never had to deal with depression to empathize with what you're feeling. You shouldn't have to hide it, per se, but try not to let it get in the way of your relationships, either.

And if you're not getting treatment, you definitely need to start seeing a psychologist and/or psychiatrist, preferrably both.

Answer 8

Don't use the word fake. Lets say that you are just raising to the ocassion when you are at work. If your depression got worse enough you wouldn't be able to hide your depression.

Are you being treated by your doctor? If not, make an apointment.

Answer 9

I do it on a regular basis as well. I always think, fake it until you feel it. Most of the time it works for the most part, and I end up feeling a better. Even if it's just for a short period of time.

Answer 10

NO. i did that and it only got me in more trouble in the long run. i did exactly what you did and i nearly just about ruined what little life i had. after about a two years of that, my parents forced me to go see a doctor. depression is not going to go away easily. its a battle, to see who will rule your life. i am still trying to confront my problems to this day. and i think i always will. if you think you are under server pressure, stress, or even depression, talk to someone you trust. if that doesn't help then you should probably go see a doctor.