Really, because I am really into this girl and isnt it enough to say that i love you and that i want to spent the rest of my life with you? What do you get out of it?
People can get Health insurance from being a partner and not married, people can have shared benifits w/o being married, are we getting married for love or discounts? Why have the debt from an account for the wedding ceremony and reception. If its for the party and the dress, buy a nice dress and throw a party for fun, rent a building, it would cost less too right, i mean if we care about the discounts. so again why?
2006-11-02 11:05:30 · 9 answers · asked by emilio9382 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh Emilio, i couldnt agree with you more.
Everyone's different; some people really want the dress, the cake, the whole shibang; some are quite happy to go off to Bali and get married under a palm tree with just the two of you.
Some people dont feel the need for any of the above, and go on happily as long term partners.
I personally think the whole white weding thing is ok if you keep it resonable, and affordable. But when it gets out of control, and you find yourself in debt for the rest of your days just so she can have the whole fairytale, then it's a problem.
Me, i opted for a quiet little ceremony; it doesn't diminish how much i love my husband, and we've still got our sanity and our bank balance in order.
Each to their own, good luck matey.
2006-11-02 11:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by harttattoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married whether its a justice of the peace or a church wedding is a public declaration of commitment. Additonally there are many legal and financial benefits to being married such as income taxes, insurance benefits, and property settlements without inheritance taxes.
If you have children they too may benefit from social security benefits.
Raising children in a loving two parent family is better than being a single parent.
These are only a few reasons, my personal reasons would require a book and I don't have time for that.
2006-11-02 11:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married for legal and practical reasons. It's just easier to function as a couple when you're married. But no, I don't think that you need to be formally married to be committed - there are just parctical and social reasons that make marriage attractive. If nothing else, then simply not having to answer the "why aren't you married" question for the rest of your life makes it worth it, IMO. If you ARE going to be with this person, it really shouldn't make a difference either way whether you're living as partners or as a husband and wife.
2006-11-02 11:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMFAO at Just_Me's response. that's EXACTLY what my husband said when the marriage certificate came in the mail. it looked like a property title!
people get married because they love each other. benefits include social security in case one spouse dies and there are children involved, reduced taxes, health benefits (some companies don't honor domestic partners) insurance benifits, and many other social issues.
technically a marriage only costs $170.00. at least that's what mine costs. all that other stuff is just for show.
2006-11-02 11:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, who said you have to have a big wedding. A justice of the peace is just fine. The point is that you have committed to her and God that she is your one and only. There are benefits with social security also, down the road. If you can't make a commitment don't get married, let her go, and live alone.
2006-11-02 11:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it isn't for the insurance or the party or the discounts, it's to show her and for her to show you that no one else in the world is as important. To say for the rest of our lives it's only you and me. The ultimate show of love and dedication. Perhaps you just aren't ready for that yet. When you are you will know and it will be as important to you as it is to her. Don't get married because you feel you have to....get married because you want to.
2006-11-02 11:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tax wise, sure, it helps. And as a woman, for a woman that piece of paper shows you are committed to her. But, as a woman having been divorced once and who knows, maybe again, don't do it. It's too messy when you want to walk away. JUST DON'T HAVE KIDS! If you are going to have kids, then make sure she's the right one, stay until the kids are grown.
2006-11-02 11:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by fosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, because there is suppose to be a formal taking of vows infront of a legimiate person, that afferms the wedding.. For the children if nothing else... they can not have your belongings unless they are legimiate....
good luck
2006-11-02 11:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men and women marry to get the title to each other....lolol if you don't want to get married and would rather shack up then go for it
2006-11-02 11:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋