Hubby won't work?.............?

Question

I am astay at home mom with a 3yr old and one on the way.While I'm at home,Iteach our child,cook,clean,and take care of ANY business that there is.All my hubby does is go to work and come home( literally).He doesn't even bathe when he gets here!He works 4 days a week stocking shelves with soda.He is paid a reasonable amount for this work and is allowed to work overtime whenever he pleases.We would like to get into a housebut need to save money to do so.If he would work an extra 1-2days,we wouldbe able to save 4-800.00 extradollars each month with just those days alone...and still have extra money!He refuses to work even one extra day a week(bringing him up to 5 days of work like the average joe).Tells me today I need to put our kid in daycare and get a job...daycare will take a good 30-40%from my monthly income and I wont have time for our kid(I'm also 6weeks pregnant and a high risk pregnancy).Also says if I want to get into a house,I will need to get a job and save the money to!

All he has to do is save the cash andwork!..I was the one that had to save up the money and bring us out of homelessness and into this apartment!Is it right for me to have to put on the pants whenever we need something?

This setup makes me feel insecure with him as the breadwinner.....and unsure of our future as a couple and a family.If I get us in a house ad have to take time off work when baby's born..who's to say he'll be able to keep it up?...I'm not even sure if I'll have all the baby'sthings when it'sborn unless I work at least a few months...What to do?

Answer 1

why did u marry him?he sounds like a bum u could prob do a better job on your own without him what sort of example is he setting your kids i could maybe understand if he was at college part time but to be that lazy i mean ask yourself is it gonna get better or worse?does he care about the stress this situation is causing you in your condition way up the pros and cons of being with him and where u see yourself in the future and if he cant or wont step up u might think about shipping him out good luck

Answer 2

Have to talked to him and let him know how you feel. If you have and he doesn't care then have a family member or friend watch the child get a job and kick him to the curb, you deserve better. He will have to pay child support and that will help you out with taking care of the kids. Because no were in you story do you say you love him, so maybe you are staying for some other reason then love. I hope you do the right thing for you and your children. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

It seems like your husband simply likes to take it easy and enjoy life. Already it sounds like he must be bringing home quite a bit of money if you can afford not to work, AND to keep having kids. Many women can't even ask for this much. Count your blessings.

If you don't like the way he likes to live - why did you even marry him? You are at least 50% responsible for choosing to marry this person and have kids with him. The reality of the matter is - if you want a husband who will work night and day to buy bigger and bigger houses for you and the kids, you are with the wrong guy, period. There's nothing wrong with wanting a house, but then you have to choose your mate accordingly.

Answer 4

Normally your cosmetic makes me dizzy.... now this question has handed even that dizziness....... What in case your hubby's on-line spouse had a woman at the part who had a web-based hubby who had a web-based mistress.... omg... I suppose I simply.....um..... blush

Answer 5

Get a family member or a frined to watch your children. You get a job, then it all works out! Good luck