Every time I go out and socialize, no matter how much I make people laugh, say witty things, have an intelligent conversation, get on with many different people and mingle really well,
I come away regretting things I've said or done that were "wrong", I start to cringe and shutter thinking about some things I did or said, wondering if I acted appropriately or went overboard--etc. etc....
This happens whether I've had a glass of wine or not!
Does everyone experience this or is it just me because I'm a huge blabber mouth with paranoid tendencies?>
The funny thing is, at the time, I think I'm doing everything perfectly fine, but I leave and I'm like, UGH! I'm such an idiot!
2006-11-02 10:58:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
NO! LOL, I don't because you don't know who I am and can't "destroy" me (lol) or something..
2006-11-02 11:05:50 · update #1
Stop being so hard on yourself. We all make social mistakes at times. Learn to laugh at yourself.
2006-11-02 11:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I've felt the same way.
All of your acquaintances also feel insecure, to different degrees.
And, you aren't the only one good at hiding it.
Try making it less about how you feel and more about how the other person feels.
If you spend more time genuinely making others feel good --
A compliment, or ask about their kids, offer a drink or seat, etc--
Do this, even with people who don't seem to "need" support -
Your reflections on the evening will feel better.
You might even find yourself smiling about it.
And, others might think of it and smile, too!
2006-11-02 11:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by OShenandoah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think ur an idiot at all. anyone can experience things like these encounters socially. we'll come out of a social gathering and think "omg, did i REALLY say that" or "omg, they prolly think i'm crazy or weird," etc., but it's not like ur different than the rest of us. at one point in our lives, we ALL come away feeling that we made a mistake or acted stupidly, really, but i bet they felt that way too. we're all different, but sometimes the same in these situations. it's not stupid to feel that u did something dumb. just don't worry what ppl think and then u'll come away thinking "wow, i had fun talking to them. maybe it'll happen again." and see how good ya feel!
2006-11-02 11:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by ♥#1 Miley Cyrus Fan♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way, I know how u feel..when I ask people about it, they say that it may be because we are self-concious of ourselves, wanting people to like us..its not very healthy actually..so now im trying to not care so much about what others think about me and keep a positive attitude..i recommend you to do the same.
2006-11-02 11:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Stardust 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have the exact same problem. I think it's just something more deep seeded in side or a more personal problem. Really I dont think you are doing anything to drastic or wrong, because if you did somebody might say something or show it. I think it may have to do with self-esteem.
2006-11-02 11:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Vannah-Loo! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 11:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by frahm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have more confidence in yourself. We all make idiots of ourselves from time to time, but other people forget about our gaffes long before we may.
2006-11-02 11:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Albert Hall 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like an idiot after asking this question?
2006-11-02 11:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by IElop 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋