3 months ago i met this girl, on a camping trip. we started talking and as time passed by we kindda grew fond of each other, i respect her as a woman, and admire her as a person. i'm drulling all over for her, or as some might say "falling" for her. and i am certain that she might feel the same for me. i am ready to step up to the plate and formally ask her to be more than just my friend. I was happy and exited . or so it was until yesterday my sister told me that she had bumped in to some "long time no see" relatives and had invited them over for dinner this coming sunday and that i must be there, i asked her who and how we were related to them...long story short The girl i am so madly falling in love with, turned out to be my cousin,and hence she will be coming for dinner this sunday my question is WHAT DO I DO???
2006-11-02 10:51:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What I would do? I would do my best to be far away from home on said day when this "gathering" is taking place. like stranded in a freeway (friend's house).be sure to apologize and tell your sister how much you regret not have attended. then after you gather your thoughts, and put the facts together, step up to the plate, by then you will be sure what kind of ball you gonna throw. i would hate to be in your shoes, but i hope you act wisely. best of lucks.
2006-11-02 11:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by thekool1srtkn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being involved with the cousin ... if you are blood related your family wont agree and even if they do dont go for it cause children tend to have some or the other problem if the marriages take place in the family.
Plus will u guys be ok with the whole cousin thing? I dont think so. So just let go. Move on
2006-11-02 18:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tha very fact that you want to know from us confirms that there are some restrictions in your society/culture/community/country with regard to this kind of relationships.
It is better to forget it. You did it unknowingly and that relieves you of the guilt, at least.
You must face it head-on. You need to talk to her about it. So, go and attend the dinner get-together.
If above all is not applicable and there are no issues with the society/culture/religion/community/law or otherwise; go ahead and get married. You will ahve to convince your relatives.
GOOD LUCK, both ways.
2006-11-02 19:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by sharma.kulbhushan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow.
Regardless of if you are blood-related or not, don't pursuit it any farther.
I guess it would be very awkward. Does she know that you are cousins?
If you haven't told her your feelings yet, then do not try to make it seem like you like her, maybe distance yourself a bit. If you did tell her your feelings, like I said it would be awkward, but just tell her that "you had no idea that you were related and oh well, thats kinda funny, now I need to find someone else." (but do it in a nice way, try to maybe lighten the mood and joke about it)
2006-11-02 11:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by ;-) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of cousins you are. Are you blood related? Don't go there. Are you somehow related through somebody's uncles cousin's brother and really only step? Then you might as well see where it leads. If they ask why, just say you aren't related and you liked her before you knew.
2006-11-02 10:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend have time with relatives and spend the rest of the night with the gurl
just take the gurl with u
say something "important" is happening at work or ur boss wont give u a free day to ur cousins
spend a little time before dinner with cousins, when dinner time, say u have to go to work, but go to gurls house
2006-11-02 11:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by nano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's likely that your families won't understand. If you have no blood relation, or are at least twice removed (look it up), I believe it's legal for you two to pursue this relationship. I'm thinking your first move is to discuss this with her. After that, it will only get more difficult, I'm afraid.
2006-11-02 11:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your romance and now behave like a brother. Make a laugh at the past deeds whenever you meet her.
2006-11-02 22:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by ars32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to remain friends and nothing more
2006-11-02 10:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you can marry ur cousins right???>24
2006-11-02 13:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by yahoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋