This is the reason why i want her to not fall for me or even hate me. To keep the story short, i am 23 lesbian. The women i fall for is 15 yrs older then me. Her husband is my best friend. I always have some sort of feelings for her, but she is married and i didn't think it would be possilbe she would love me back. Well, i guess nothing is impossible now, she ask me one night if i like her, i didn't response at that time, but she said because of the way i treat her, she is starting to fall for me, i was shock. We did have a chance to sleep together, but i stopped her, especially when she had a bit to drink. After 3 month i decided to leave and came to England. I really lover her, therefore, i don't want to destroy their marriage, she told me once if something happen between them is not my fault but i feel like it would be. We still keep in touch and talk on the phone everyday, we both care about each other, i never cross the line though. one is someone you love, one is your best friend
2006-11-02 10:36:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You were right not to persue this relationship....if her marriage ends it must be because she/they couldn't make it work, not because of a third party.
If or when her marriage does fail and she becomes single, you be able to have a relationship with her then without the guilt of having being the cause of the break up.
As for her husband being your friend.....cross that bridge when you come to it!!!!
2006-11-02 10:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jane E 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is not in basic terms accessible yet very in all chance that a lady received't fall in love with you in basic terms because she has had sex - in spite of the indisputable fact that many ladies human beings would wait till they have emotions till they sleep with a guy so there might want to be a chance she already has emotions till now having nooky. I also particularly suspect that you comprehend she has those sturdy emotions or you does not be feeling this feeling of foreboding ... ? EDIT: VERY strange that both men above and reduce than me equate sex without love with prostitution. many human beings have sex and are nowhere close to *in love* with their companions and it really is by technique of no skill everywhere on the brink of being an act of prostitution
2016-12-05 11:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your own judgement and concience tell you what is right and wrong and should be able to overrule your heart. The heart is a great storyteller and has no problem lying to you.
You have expanded your physical world, but have not expanded your mental world. There are too many people in the world to feel you have to involve yourself with someone who is married. They still have plenty of marriage mix in their head and do not see you clearly.
2006-11-02 10:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are a good person ...not to cross that fine line in the sand! you don't have to make her hate you , just tell her that her hubby is your best friend an you don't want to come between her an the hubby. you can also tell her you are getting back with one you used to date an you want to make this work with her. she should back off then. good luck!
2006-11-02 10:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, explain to her that you love her dearly but that you don't want to come in between her marriage. I applaud you for being so respectful towards a marriage and not allowing her to commit infidelity with you. Tell her that you just don't feel right being with someone who is already married and that you don't want to be the reason for any ones pain & suffering. If she cannot understand your simple request, you'll have to drop contact.
2006-11-02 10:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think you are very noble for trying not to interfere in her marriage even though you are in love with her. most people wouldn't care.
as far as stopping her from falling in love with you, i'm afraid it may be too late. it sounds like she already loves you.
good luck to you both. i hope you can both find love and happiness either with each other or other partners.
2006-11-02 10:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by bmoline 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is very honorable of you - I agree with the others tho, she may already be in love with you. Can't stop those feelings. I wish you the best of luck. Hope you can find in your heart, the answers you need.
2006-11-02 11:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have done everything right but one thing STOP TALKING TO HER ON THE PHONE.Give this thing more time before you talk on the phone it will blow over.
2006-11-02 14:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow very interesting. I can only wish you the best.
2006-11-02 10:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Shortcake r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she loves you gd luck
2006-11-02 10:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋