I have been married almost 2 years. We have a 2 month old baby boy. How do I find time for my husband?

Question

I really miss hanging out with him but I don't want to leave the baby with a sitter just yet. How do I make my husband feel loved and special?

Answer 1

Make some plans for after the baby goes to sleep. Of course, the baby might disturb those plans, but he knows that might be the case. By plans, I mean a candle lit dinner, nice bottle of wine, romantic music, and whatever follows that. He will appreciate the effort, even if it is not a night out on the town.

Answer 2

As a mother of 2 I can say I understand what you're going through.It can be tough to find the time to be a wife and not just a mommy.Well here are a few things that worked and still work for us. Showers for 2 when the baby is sleeping.Take a drive and park some where and cuddle and talk while the baby is asleep in the back,wait until the baby is asleep and have dinner together. See a pattern here. It will get easier as the baby gets older. Then you can get sitters and go out every once in awhile. But for now that little darling still sleeps a fair amount so take advantage of it. We love to dance but can't afford to get a sitter and go out all the time so we'll put the kids to bed ,move the furniture in our living room and dance! sounds corny I know but it works for us.Hope this helps some .Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Having a baby is a big responsibility and you deserve a big break every now and then. There is nothing wrong with getting a good friend or family member to watch your baby while you and your husband have quality time. I was always told to try to at least get out with your spouse once a month. If you and your husband cant get out every now and then at least always make sure that he is as important to you as your baby because sometimes we are so into taking care of our kids we dont show as much appreciation for our spouses. Let him know you love him and make him feel special to you your own way and when your son is asleep make time for the two of you even if it is just cuddling up on the couch or eating dinner together you want your husband to have your time also. Congratulations on your little one if you dont have a girl yet they are totally opposite so get ready.

Answer 4

If you have a trusted family member to leave baby with, try making a special 'date' night that you can spend with your hubby. Let him know that you don't want your love life to languish and enlist his help/creativity in making sure it doesn't.
Also, make sure he understands that if/when you are tired, your son has had a bad night, etc. that adequate sleep is needed for a healthy love life. That may mean him helping out and getting up with baby, too, so that you can catch up on sleep. Most men don't realize how exhausting babies/children can be. While baby naps, Mom usually has to use that time for catching up on household stuff. Enlist help from his family and yours on some of those chores. If you can afford to hire help around the house, do it. It will be worth it in the long run (just be careful of those 'Hand that rocks the cradle' types, lol).
Congrats on baby!
Good luck (you're on the right track).

Answer 5

You can hang out with him without going out. Put the baby to bed, eat a nice candlelit meal(corny, I know), then draw a nice relaxing bath for two...or take a nice hot shower. Then snuggle up. Hopefully the baby won't wake up. If you have family or trusted friends that live nearby, ask if they would mind keeping that bundle of joy for a few hours, so you two can go out, watch a movie, and eat somewhere nice. Hope you can get that needed time to yourselves...you have the rest of your lives to be parents. Trying to be romantic after having a baby is hard. Good luck sweetie, and congrats! :)

Answer 6

get the baby on a good sleeping schedule then just do a nice romantic dinner at home and go from there then you dont have to worry about a sitter just pull all the stops a nice dinner with candles and music and the works just like a restaurant

Answer 7

Make sure the baby has an early bedtime like 7 and then spend the night with your hubbie. I think you shoudl get a babysitter, it doesn't have to be someone you don't know, but like your parents or siblings could watch the baby, and you two can go out for dinner and a movie, something romantic...

Answer 8

Fix him a nice meal. Then when the baby is a sleep (maybe only a 1.5 hour period) show him by your actions that he is not only the Father of your child but the man that your very much attracted to. But remember first and foremost show him respect as your husband and the father of your child. For a man that is first and foremost what he wants from his wife.

As far as someone watching him... Isn't there a grandparent or aunt/uncle you can trust in?

Answer 9

Maybe you could write a love note for him and leave it where he will find it. Or you could leave pieces of clothing where he can see them forming a trail for him to follow. Do you feel ready to make love again? You might think of this time of your life as the time of "the quickies". Also both of you could set some time aside where you both have a date time in your home. Let your imaginations go and you might come up with some other ideas.

Answer 10

well you can still spend quality time with your husband once the baby is asleep. Or what you can do is ask your sister or mom or his mom to take care of the baby and go out with your husband. Good Luck.