Do you agree/believe with ...arranged Marriage?

Answer 1

I think its ancient ritual without purpose that causes pain and lifelong misery in many cases. Nothing is more important than personal feelings and choice when it comes to lifelong commitment

Answer 2

Forced marriages are completely wrong according to every religion that I know of; arranged marriages are OK if that's what both parties want - I know several people that have had them, and it has worked out more or less - marriages are never altogether plain sailing!

Maybe people in love marriages can have unrealistic expectations that arranged marriages don't encourage - but then maybe people in arranged marriages end up settling for secong best. I think there's no clear answer here.

Another point is that, although it's important to distinguish theoretically between arranged and forced marriages, there's often a grey area in between - people have an arranged marriage because there's no other realistic option, or the alternative would involve so much pain in the family for an uncertain outcome that it doesn't seem worth it.

Answer 3

I think if the parents or whomever arranges it and then the people who are being arranged agree with the arrangement then I think it's a good thing. But I think the people involved should have a say in the arrangmenet. But I don't think that the parent's should be completely excluded from deciding on who their children marry. Maybe "arrange" is too harsh of a word. I believe in reasonably decided marriages.

Answer 4

I think arranged to a point is fine such as setting people up on a blind date to get to know each other and if they decide they arent right for each other as far as making a big step and strong commit for one another then they can not call it off. The extreme arranged marriage of some cultures like india are a bit harsh I think but I'm sure it works for some if not most perhaps in their country, afterall for them it is some of their culture and traditional. If you compare the divorce rate of india and the US its probably alot higher here. But also theres so many other factores and lifestyle differences and the american attitude of self independance rather than thinking in terms of "We" when it comes to marriages that marriages just dont work out in the U.S. So in that case a arranged marriage wouldnt work out here. But that doesnt mean that it wouldnt work out for other races even in the US.

Answer 5

Well, if you look at the divorce rate among people who have married because they fell in love (more than 50% of marriages end in divorce) then maybe there's a case to be made for someone older and wiser making the match.

The truth is - what makes a good marriage isn't usually what makes someone fall in love with someone else. I think maybe we should give arranged marriages another chance.

Answer 6

Yes they probably have a high success rate that marriages that are not arranged

Answer 7

I think if you were raised that way and that that was your culture that it is okay. I also think that if you didn't want an arrange marriage then it shouldn't be forced.

Answer 8

no. we arent living in past times, now women should have the righ to choose who they marry. although sometimes arranged marriages do work out, what if that person could have found their soulmate instead?

Answer 9

No way, I'm not willing to take that gamble for the rest of my life! Have my parents choose a guy for me? Oh man I'd hate to think what they'd come up with!!!

Answer 10

I don't even agree with marriage! What makes you think I'd want to have an ARRANGED hetero suicide pact?