A guy gave me his number and we've talked on the phone several times and went on a couple dates together. He wants to have sex but I want to get to know him better. I'm looking for something more than just sex. I told him 'no' and why and now he is mad. Do you think I did the right thing. Or will he move on to someone else?
2006-11-02 10:27:41 · 26 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Run.......for the hills
2006-11-02 10:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You have all your life to have sex, and if you're at all like me didn't get much while you were in the closet, so what's a few more dates, really? I'm a newbie at this, just like you, but I do have dignity and refuse to sleep with someone after 2 dates, no matter how hot they are! I just don't want to give it up and act like a whore. I've made out with a few guys and gotten numbers like that, and they even tried to mess around in the bathroom but I kept it all PG-13 rated (clothes on). When you meet someone that respects your choice, then you've found your man. It may sound a little old fashioned, but I'd probably wait for about 4 or 5 dates and probably wouldn't even go "all the way," just start to have fun and experiment ya know.
2006-11-02 21:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in standing by your convictions. If he dumps you and moves on to someone else, then he probably wasn't worth your time in the first place. Similarly, if he has multiple male partners, then you definitely want to sever the ties.
Monogamy is not real popular among male gays. Keep looking for that special someone and you'll find a keeper. Again, I would not compromise your standards. You are to be commended.
Cheers!
2006-11-02 19:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff N. Florida 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you !
Theres to many out there that are willing to have sex with just about anyone or thing these days . If he can not respect you for wanting more than just sex after you explained your reasons to him ,sure he might be mad now ,but in a few days if he still feels the same then I'd say GOOD RIDENCE , just shows you've got principles and he doesn't ....
2006-11-02 18:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by nygayart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reality of it is that he's going to move on to someone else. Going by what you've said, this guy is just looking for sex. Forget about him and just move on. You can do better.
If you're looking for something more than sex, then you definitely did the right thing, and I admire you for it ; )
2006-11-02 18:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. You would have been one in a long list of one-night stands. You're just not into the same things, so it is his loss. As for him moving onto someone else, I think he would have done so, anyway. He is searching ... one after the other.
2006-11-02 19:40:10 · answer #6 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. I hate being pressured into anything, and you need to be with someone who respects and likes you. If he moves on, then he wasn't worth bothering with, and you should move on too, as you can surely do better. Good luck!
2006-11-02 19:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing my friend...sounds like all he was looking for was sex....I too wait instead of jumping right into a sexual relationship...I like to get to know the person and see whether we are compatible rather than a one night stand...If that is all he wanted was sex, then BRAVO...there are plenty of other guys who would date you for your intellect rather than your penis...If I didn't live so far from you..I'd ask for a date.....Best of luck my friend in finding your ideal mate...
2006-11-05 14:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mess with a horny guy and feel the wrath!! You'll have to wait it out, but you certainly did the right thing. Now you just have to see if he likes you and respects you more for taking a stand!! Good for you. Practice Safe Sex!!
2006-11-02 18:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by 4in5yearsMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate when guys are like that. If he doesn't want to get to know you first then you're better off without him. If all he's looking for is sex then it's his loss. Sex is NOT everything. If theres no love in sex it's pointless. I should know. Been there done that.
2006-11-02 18:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by coolbabe1959 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. If he got upset, he obviously doesn't want what you want. If he moves on to someone else, it's for the better.
2006-11-03 14:14:39 · answer #11 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋