My best friend...?

Question

I have been friends with her for about nine years, and we have always been close. We're still really good friends, get along really well, and hang out but....lately (the past few months) it seems that she's been putting her other friends first. This is not a jealousy, I-don't-want-to-share thing, I don't care that she has other friends. It's just I feel like I'm starting to becoming her second choice for everything. For example: we've gone trick-or-treating with each other for years. This year we both decided we didn't want to, and that we were going to hand out candy at home. Then on Halloween she went trick-or-treating with her group of friends. They even came to my house. I know I shouldn't be mad, but still... She just seems to be choosing them over me. I haven't said anything, because I don't want to seem like a *****, but... What should I do/say?

Answer 1

I think you should talk to her and tell her about how you feel like this. I had a friend who was like that and i told her how i felt and then we started to hang out a little more. And i was her best friend for 3 years. If she has been a good friend to you then you should tell her about it because if you never tell her then those 9 years of friendship was for nothing. She will understand

Answer 2

yeah, that is not cool. If she is your best friend and you guys decided to hang out and then she basically ditched you to be with some other girls that would upset me too. Maybe you should tell her how you feel. Like you feel like shes been ditching you or you are just a back up choice when it comes to hanging out

Answer 3

Well maybe she wants to try new things, hang out with new people just talk to her and see whats up but dont seem too pushy. Maybe you should do the same thing and see her reaction.

Answer 4

try to spend more time with her