A husband should always make his wife feel special. Otherwise, another man can easily give her this feeling, right? My lover makes me feel what a woman should always feel - special, sexy, hot. My husband couldn't just make me feel this way coz he's always busy with his work. That's why i'm doing this to him. He's nice, ok... but i believe he's a complete bore. My lover laughs at him, stating that such a guy has now business marrying me. But, anyway, i am giving him the benefit of his thinking of me as a devoted wife, as a consolation to his providing for the financial needs.
2006-11-02 09:54:48 · 27 answers · asked by Rose A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey - don't feel bad. Men do it ALL the time. And for all those who trashed you, let them walk on water! Sometimes a marriage just doesn't turn out as it should, and sometimes you have to stay for your own reasons. I too am in a very similar situation, except my lover doesn't laugh. We try not to talk about about s/o 's. I feel great after I've been with my lover. My husband doesn't want to give me what he does. AND THAT DOESN'T MAKE ME A WHORE!
2006-11-02 11:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by fosmom 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
if he is such a bore, then why did you marry him? is he not attractive or sexy(looking) enough? was he always like this? or did he change? i think he needs help.
that is BAD. very very BAD. maybe you are. have you tried to spice up the marriage? have you tried talking to him? because that is what i prefer. and you have the nerve to boast about 'what you're doing to him'? and making the lover laugh at him? using him for his money?
your husband needs help obviously though. i don't know in what way he is a bore, but you're right. a husband should make his wife feel special. he should be the one making you feel special, sexy and hot. what you share what with your lover is something you and HUSBAND should be sharing, and there should not BE any lover. that is the better way.
when something is lacking in a marriage, and it can be fixed, i prefer the partners trying to do things to spice it up. he has to be willing to do it, because i think it can be done, if this is the only thing wrong.
try talking to him about the situation...or end this marriage, tell him the truth and get a divorce.
2006-11-02 10:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by realstyles2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you weren't whoring around with your lover you could pay attention to your husband and his needs, and you may actually have found your needs would be met too. Consolation, honey you are no prize I don't care if you are a flippin model, inside you are a very ugly person. I feel for your husband. You are a prime example of why marriages fail. Why don't you quit riding your husbands financial tail and get your own income, and run off and live happily ever after with your lover. By the way, a real man doesn't sleep with a MARRIED woman.
2006-11-02 10:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the betterment of everyone involved, i hope you don't currently have children, with your lover or your husband. That would be a shame to put them through when they find out what they're mother is doing.
If you don't have children, i suggest you DON'T. Sure, the new 'lover' will give you all the things you want NOW, but if you marry him and 5 years down the road, you are going to cheat again, because you got bored, and he go busy trying to meet your financial needs....
Now it seems like you are flaunting your new conquest - CHEATING. Did you come here thinking people would support that?
People like you should come with a caution sign.. Danger-Keep Away.
2006-11-02 10:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Puraz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love reading these questions that say they are not whores, yet they describe how they are cheating on their husband with their lover....lmfao!!! You are too funny. Oh yeah, back to the questions in general. I cannot answer them, too busy laughing. I love how your "lover" says that your husband(the man you took vows with) has no business marrying you. Sounds to me like you had no business getting married. Do your husband a favor, divorce him and get as far away as possible. He doesn't need a reminder of how much of a whore his wife is.
2006-11-02 10:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I can attest to all of what you just said. Let that guy on the side go. I had a guy on the side for 3 yrs. The first yr we were just friends. I knew he wanted me but I was trying to respect my vows. The second yr I gave in and slept with him. Yr 3, the lover was giving me an ultimatum. He said that if I didn't leave my hubby, he would leave and I'd never see him again. He wanted me to marry him right away. He started wrecking my nerves and acting jealous. I had to leave this loon. 9 months later, he caught up with my hubby and told him everything including some lies. That ended up a waste of my time. Now, I appreciate my boring hubby.
2006-11-02 10:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating on your husband. There are no if's, and's or but's about it...that's the simple truth. Now I do agree that it is human nature to be attracted to someone who gives you the attention that you desire, especially if you aren't getting it at home, BUT (and this is a HUGE BUT) it is up to you to either make sure your husband knows where he is lacking and changes it, or simply doing the right thing and telling him that you no longer want to be married. Basically, you're lying to your husband and staying married just because you want to be financially supported, and that is not right...
2006-11-02 10:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
But, anyway, i am giving him the benefit of his thinking of me as a devoted wife, as a consolation to his providing for the financial needs.
Boy what a sacrifice! You should be sainted!!!
Get real ... you and your lover are cuckolding him. Just live with that.
2006-11-02 10:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it, but your lover is probably laughing at you too, since all it took was a few nice compliments to get you in the sack, you say your husband is boring and works alot, well maybe he works alot cuz he is trying to give you the best that he can give, im sure if you REALLY loved him you would have asked him to slow down on the work and make some time for you so you could keep thre marriage exciting, but that would be to much work for you HUH, who knew marriage would take some effort on your part, im so appalled that your lover laughs at your spouse in front of you and you allow it, like i said he probably laughs at you too, when he is with some other girl or with his buddies bragging about how he bagged some sorry low self esteem desperate housewife, you give women a BAD name
2006-11-02 10:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by legal help 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a slob you piece of low-life trash. When you get married you pledge that you two will be united in HOLY MATRIMONY and that is keeping yourself for your husband only. ery is bad and you are sick. Maybe if you talk to him you can save your marriage but if you were my wife.....I'D MAKE YOU PAY. Try counseling or since you seem to be happy CHEATING on your HUSBAND leave him before your mate gives you some std and you pass it on down the line. I have no respect for a CHEATER like you. Get a life.
2006-11-02 10:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋