A mutual friend saw him at a gay/lesbian event, so I'm pretty sure he is gay, which I support. But he hasn't come out of the closet to me yet, so I'm not sure that I should let on that I know. I want to offer him support and encouragement and even congratulate him, but that might make him uncomfortable, since I'm not supposed to know. Should I just wait until he's ready to tell me? He might need as much support as he can get, and someone to talk to about this. I'd like to be there for him, but I don't want to out him before he's ready. What should I do?
2006-11-02 09:54:43 · 12 answers · asked by joanimal 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would make sure that he knows you are accepting, and let him do the rest. I knew my friend would be supportive before I told him, but I still waited a long time.
He will tell you when he's ready.
2006-11-02 10:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that your friend saw him and be casual about it and let him know that you are supportive of gay people etc. and want to support him if he is in fact gay. I think friends can always use more supportive friends. Also just because he was at a gay event does not necessarily make him gay (although it is likely). You might just ask him but make sure he knows you are supportive of it first.
2006-11-02 09:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Des Demona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until he is ready to tell you. Until then, since you seem like a good friend to have, you should drop a few hints here and there to let him know you are OK with it. Bring up gay marriage and talk about how you are for it or something like that, to strike up convo.
2006-11-02 13:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend could just be supportive of gay people and have been at the event with a friend. Does your friend know that you are supportive of gay people? If not, casually mention that you are. That way he will know that you won't be judgmental of him if he tells you that he is gay.
2006-11-02 10:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good friend. Just wait till he is ready to tell you, sometimes it is the hardest to come out to those you know will support you,
2006-11-02 11:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by SunnyDay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows that you're cool with gay people, and supportive of gay rights and issues. It's his decision from there, but you're helping him to know that it would be a safe decision to tell you.
2006-11-02 15:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait til he "comes out of the closet" because perhaps he isn't even gay and if you say something to him about it he may wonder what you are talking about.
2006-11-02 09:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will come out to you when he is ready. All you can do is be suportive and support the gay causes so he knows he can come out to you easily
2006-11-02 15:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for him to talk about it. Bring up your acceptance and support of the glbt community often, and maybe he will get the hint that you are an ally :)
2006-11-02 13:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by tje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, are you really sure that he is gay? maybe he is effeminate. If you really think he is. It is really up to him to chose a time to come out. I really would not interfere. the only time I would would be if he started dating a woman. in the day of AIDS no one should be led on not to mention their feelings hurt. but other than that, let him chose his time to come out
2006-11-02 09:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by anna p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋