I can't believe it! I'm totally devastated.... my boyf (now x) has gone back to his ex.. she cheated on him!!!! and he's taken her back.. I feel as if my stomach has been punched and kicked!! I'm so alone now, my world has just shattered before my eyes!! I
2006-11-02 09:48:59 · 31 answers · asked by happy soul 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that's really horrible and I'm so sorry for your hurting. It will take you a while to get ovr this so just be patient with yourself. cry it out and then cry some more. tell everyone how you feel and get it out. then start making your self feel good. do things you know will make you feel good. do all the things you wished you'd done but couldn't because you were with him. get really fit and healthy. eat well and exercise. have beauty treatments and look fantastic...best revenge really and it will make your confidence go up again. go and visit friends..get away for a while if you can afford it. I'm sending you a big hug to get you started and really wishing you much good from the universe..you deserve it XX M
2006-11-02 20:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand - I've been there too - but think about it ..... in a way he's been cheating all the time he was with you ... he must have always had these feelings for her to make it so easy to go back to her ..... and she in turn is using him now, as she did then, because she's been dumped - it won't be long before she does it to him again - and then what are you going to do? can you/could you trust him again... would you want to? .....
......you have two choices .... swallow your pride and put up a fight for him, because you love him.... or ... show some dignity (even though it's killing you inside) by refusing to let him see how hurt you are ..... do your best to get back on the dating scene if you can - even if it is only for appearances sake .....
one thing's for sure - he owes you a serious explanation ....
and don't make excuses for him - it doesn't matter how hard she made a play for him or how easy it was for her to click her fingers and he went running .... either way he did - because he wanted to ......
2006-11-02 22:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/6Rtoy
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-27 01:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I'm so sorry... you know what.. she'll cheat on him again and then he will realize that leaving you was the worst mistake! But then you will be so over him and with someone so much better. Sometimes doors close for a reason and that is because there is a much better opportunity out there for you just waiting.
2006-11-02 10:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Destinee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It will feel like the end of the world at the moment , but believe me , time will heal this. You are worth so much more honey!!! You will find someone who will love and respect you . Take care x
2006-11-02 20:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart I am so sorry for your pain. I had the same thing happen to me recently. To be honest with you, love hurts and it will make you sick, it can make you very sick. You will however learn it was for your best interest he went back to his ex. Also love is so strong that although she hurt him he loved her. All relationships have their ups and downs and sometimes we feel as if we should give the person we care about more chances then he/she really deserve. You would do the same thing I am sure. Trust me I am not making excuses for your b/f but the truth is love make you do crazy things. Also, if you did everythign you could to make him happy, he probally could not accept it or perhaps he was not ready for a new relationship. He really need to get his closure in order to have a stable relationship with you. At times we as humans also do things to jeopardize our ex's relationship when we know they moved on for our own selfish reasons. It will take some time to heal your pain, take it and be cautious not to do anything on the rebound. Falling in love while on the rebound can make it more painful for you in the long run. Please please be careful not to wear your heart on your sleeve. Take some time and get to know yourself. True love awaits you sweetie and I hope you find that perfect mate who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I wish we could all find our soulmates honestly.
I will hold your hand in spirit and wish the best for you. Again I am sorry you feel hurt and confused. Best wishes and continue loving.
I read inpirations and motivations to help me through my painful times
I will share one with you
In Times of Loneliness
I now ask that you fill my heart with love.
I am standing in a place of loneliness and despair.
I am experiencing confusion and conflict.
I am feeling lost and abandonment.
Please fill my heart with the joy of your love.
There is a battle going on inside of me.
I am battling loneliness.
I am battling self-doubt.
The battle is becoming difficult.
It feels like I amlosing my joy, my peace and myself.
Please feel me with the strength and love.
I now open my heart.
I now open my mind.
I now open my life to true love when I find it.
2006-11-02 10:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things never go back to the same place...and rarely do they move forward in a positive way, he's going to realize he made a mistake and chances are he'll just end up leaving the relationship...no guarantees he'll be back to you, but don't waste your time crying rivers over someone who didn't appreciate you...move on to something much better...if he left, then it was never meant to be.
2006-11-02 09:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i bet he'll come running back to you, after all his ex is a b***h.hopefully you wont take him back. you'll get over it, try no to thik about it, go out with the girls, go be single and enjoy you're self. dont contact him and if you see him again put on a brave face and make it seem like you wanted to break up with him anyway. he'll realise his mistake. he's no better than the cheating ex.
2006-11-02 10:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by free_wild_alone 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about what happened to you. He was wrong to do such a thing. I can only sit here and do my best to feel your pain but you didn't deserve that at all. My advice to you is to just be patient, there are nice guys out there (myself included) who aren't going to do you wrong like that.
Having said that, it's best to move on and find other guys. They're out there sweetie and they are looking for a wonderful girl like you. You don't have to be alone, you can be around friends like me.
2006-11-02 09:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will heal over time. I know that it hurts when someone chooses someone else over you, but in the long run, you'll be fine. Try to find things to do to occupy your time so that you are not thinking about him so much. Now is a great time to spend time with close friends that really care about you.
2006-11-02 09:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋