Why is it that men hate the word marry ?

Question

ok so i been with my bf for 2 years and everytime i talk about kids and being married he changes the subject ? why do men get so scared ?

Answer 1

He's not scared. He just isn't that into you. He isn't convinced that you're "the one". Quit bringing it up and just let things fall into place. If you get tired of waiting - start over with somebody new before it's too late. What's the rush anyway? 2 years is not long enough to decide if you want to spend your entire life with someone.

Answer 2

Maybe because it means a life long commitment. Maybe he's not emotionally prepared to tie himself down. Maybe he feels better about your relationship if he can make that choice to be with you every day...keeps it fresh. Marriage is society telling him that he's been tagged. Now the wife gains a sense of security, stability, family, etc. and he looses his independence & freedom. What motivates him to having less fun, less erotic sex and more responsibility? Until he starts talking to you about marriage and kids unprovoked, I wouldn't try to persuade him. Even if he agrees, he might feel pressured, then later decide that he made a mistake and either cheat or leave. So, what's the rush? Let nature take its course. If marriage and kids is what you need, then maybe he's just not the right guy for this, but trying to change him won't bring you what you want.

Answer 3

lET HIM DO THE ASKING, IT'S PRETTY EVIDENT HE DOESN'T HAVE MARRIAGE ON HIS MIND. Why are so hung up on wanting to get married, I f you don't stop all this marriage talk if you really love him, that is the easiest way to lose him. I don't think he is scared but some men just don't want to keep hearing , "Lets get married". It is pretty evident he does not want to get married and I know the feeling, I don't either. Someone just keep on and on, you start looking for someone new.

Answer 4

because they don't want to marry you and have kids with you. They aren't scared, they are just waiting for that "right woman". It takes men a lot longer to settle down than it does or women.

Remember when you were a kid and you didn't want to go to bed because your parents were still up and you as a kid felt like if you went to bed than you would be missing out on something fun?

Answer 5

Easy one. You've "been with" the bf for 2 years. That does mean living together correct? If so, why should he want to change things? It's the old story- "Why buy the cow, when you are getting free milk"? This is why shacking up is a lousy deal for women.

Answer 6

It's not "MEN" honey, it's "YOUR MAN". Some men don't feel comfortable with the idea of marriage, especially if they are young or have been on their own for a while ()freedom). Other men dream of a lasting and loving lifetime of marriage. Talk to him in private, see what his hang-up is.

Answer 7

We do not want to lose control of our lives and wallets.

Once married we are subject to a brutal family court system that favors females and why any man sign up for that until he really wanted kids?

Many women after narraige no longer feel teh need to please their man in ways they do before marriage.

That is a huge fear.

Answer 8

You should not generalize. He may just not know if you are the one he wants to marry. If that is not it, he may not be ready for marriage. You will know when he is ready because he will start to talk about it himself. Be patient.

Answer 9

I don't know about your man, but l myself would love the opportunity, l'm not scared of marriage and l truly love kids.

L think most other guys just don't want to be tied down...in my opinion

Answer 10

Because they are jerks. Now if you went around saying you never want to get married then you'll see its them that keeps bringing it up.