21 and pregnant again what should i do?

Question

I am 21 years old and i am 5 weeks pregnant i already have a 21 month old and i had one abortion already like 2 and 1/2 years ago. i am scared to tell my mom what should i do??? i am still in college raising my son making a better life 4 myself

Answer 1

Why do you ask this now instead of asking yourself before you got your jollies off? Place an aspirin between your knees.

Answer 2

Don't abort or adoption, I have had three kids four pregnancies, none expected. I am only tweenty four. I had my first at 19, abortion at 20 and then got married and had one at 23 and my last one 18months later. I regret the abortion. and even thought about something with this last one, but I would not change it for the World. I was also scared to tell mom and embarresed of what people would think of me for having so many pregnancies at such a young age. Mom will get over it I promise and love the kids endlessly. Financial wise, there is help, especially if you are single. It will be hard but wil be worth it and always do your best for the kids. Getting help is okay, everybody needs it sometime in there life. I hope you make the right desicion. Good Luck

Answer 3

Hey honey. I am sorry that you are in this mess. I think you know what to do. it is your body and your choice.

people are stupid sometimes and will make you feel like a horrible person because of decisions that have nothing to do with them.

I had top have an abortion once. I think i was 25. I had a son already and was raising him on my own. I discussed this with my mum and she said something to me that i will never forget.

She wanted me to have an abortion because the child would not have a father, i would be stuck with the baby again and it would make things harder for my son and me.

She said that thanks to abortion, women have choices as to what happens in their lives instead of just dealing with the consequences.

If you have not been there you have no right to an opinion people. stop being so judgemental and get a life.

abortion protects the rights of women every where.

This guy was always going to walk away unscathed by the event that he helped to create so stop doing the age old thing by blaming this young women who is in a difficult situation and is asking for advice.

My advice to you is do what is right for you and your child. Talk to your mum if you can. Otherwise, please feel free to email me.

Answer 4

Oh boy, I do admire you for attempting to make a better life for you and your child. But you have to start making better choices for yourself! Why do you keep getting pregnant? You are still young and you've already been through so much! What you should do is stop having sex, or be ALOT more careful! I know saying that doesn't help the situation now, but honestly! You are just going to have to bite the bullet and tell your mom, it's not like she won't notice. That is if you decide to keep it. I hope that you do. Abortion is extremely hard on your body! But it is your choice. I do hope that you can work everything out. I feel for you because I know it is a scary situation, being so young. But since you are the one who decided to have sex, you must now accept it!

Answer 5

wow....all of you telling her to use protection are really answering her question, aren't you? Hey all you "helpers", she's ALREADY pregnant. I mean, in case you missed that part.

We can't tell you what to do, hun. You have a tough situation on your hands. You've been the abortion route and the baby route. Only you know your situation, not any of us. We could all tell you to abort, or all tell you to have it, but we aren't there. We don't have to live with your abortion decision, you do. And we aren't there to change diapers and pay your bills, you are. Just talk with your mom. She loves you, and SHE will help you.

But my OPINION if you'd like it is you had the abortion, thank goodness everything is still in working order with your body, i think since you are pregnant again, maybe you should really hang on to this baby. There is a way to make things work. Maybe your mom until you get out of college.

Good luck, you'll do what's best for you and everyone involved.

Answer 6

thats your problem now you have to take responsibility for this new baby your the one that got pregnant again without using somethin when knowing you can have another baby if you didn't wan't another baby you should of used somethin you should go get on birth control and use condoms from now on i hate people that kill innocent baby's by abortion thats messed up and wrong don't get another one ;/ your scared to tell your mom your pregnant again? my lord your 21 years old don't be scared just tell her gosh i was 17 when i got pregnant i just turned 18 in september i'm 5 months along with my first and i wasn't scared to tell my mom but anyways keep your baby don't do anything stupid i'm sure your mom will be supportive

Answer 7

It's your life...what do you WANT to do? I don't know if you're married to the man who helped get you pregnant (it takes 2, you know), but if he's clean (no drugs and maybe no cigarettes) is he, or does it seem he would be, a good husband and father? If so and you're not married, consider it for the baby's sake. If not, learn from your mistake. I would have the baby regardless. No matter how he/she came into the world, they deserve a life.

Answer 8

Ok that first answer was just rude and not helpfull at all. First off where u on birth control? , and will mom be made cuz she is providong care while you are in school? If u decide to abort then u know what to expect , if u decide to keep baby then prepare to tell mom and prepare for another. Good luck , i think u can do it !

Answer 9

You need to do what you feel is right. Don't let anyone pressure you either way. You also need to do what is best for your children. Can you afford to have a second child? What about the father? What does he want? Whatever decision you make, good luck.

Answer 10

DON"T ABORT!!! People really really want to adopt. Don't throw your babies life away because you make mistakes. My sister tried for 7 years to have a baby and finally adopted. She is ecstatic and loves the baby to death. If you can't raise it, I guarantee someone else wants to.

Answer 11

Give the baby a chance PLEASE I am begging you not to have an abortion again. If you can't raise another child go for teh open adoption. This way you can still be a part of the child's life and you child can be there to know his/her sibling. From here on out I'd advise you to use some kind of birth control.

PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, give this baby a chance at life. It's not the baby's fault so please don't punish the baby. I will be praying for you, your toddler, and your unborn child. God Bless.