2006-11-02 09:26:44 · 22 answers · asked by hoopluvr29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you're developing any kind of feelings or fantasies, then yes... and initially, there may be none, but more and more contact brings in more and more emotions and other thoughts... emotional betrayal is still betrayal...
2006-11-02 09:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by Julianne97 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adultery
2006-11-02 09:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not in any physical way ... unless you decide to meet with the person and things go even further from there.
But I'd like to argue that there is a form of "emotional" adultery: if you're spending every spare moment with your chat partner and ignoring your spouse, you're well on your way towards a marital breakdown. To put it a bit more plainly: If you're online with your chat partner instead of in bed with your spouse, there are some serious issues in your marriage.
2006-11-02 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by mutt_buffer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...as long as you keep it in a place of fun and fantasy and DO NOT in any way allow it to creep over into real life. Men are visual, therefore they look at porn, and I'm sure that most of them would say this isn't adultery, women get thier needs met through emotional contact, therefore this should not be considered adultery.
2006-11-02 10:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both are just friends - and your spouse knows of it. If it starts to lead past the kind conversation or behaviors that are not what you would not experience with a good friend of the same sex it's time to break it off. There is emotional adultery as well as physical adultery and it can be just as damaging to your relationship with your spouse.
2006-11-02 09:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by greyrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the conversation is sexual in nature and you're married to someone other than the person you're chatting with, then YES, that's adultery and will undermine your relationship and your happiness. My wife was guilty of this and it caused no end of trouble. One reason is that you're putting your energy and affection into an extra-marital relationship and that ALWAYS robs your marriage of that energy. Sorry, I should've said "my EX-wife".
Jesus didn't distinguish between our actions and our thoughts (not counting fleeting thoughts which we are instructed to bring under control). He taught that if you look at another person lustfully, you are guilty of fornication.
Thankfully, Jesus opened the way for us to seek God's forgiveness and get a fresh start.
2006-11-02 09:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rob VH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to read what everyone else says ..because I am wondering about 'boundaries' on here too. I think I am selfish (weak) on here (don't look me up now!..lol) as I don't love my husband and he's impotent.. (That's not helpin' any.) He's not been to college (which might not matter, I mean college guys can be a bigger pain sometimes) but.. it shows. He says he "loves me" (but doesn't care apparently if I don't love him.. I don't.) I accidently found out it IS fun to chat on here.. is it wrong? I don't get too graphic. I tell (men, I find women boring.. sorry) them I am celibate.. Some of 'em find this a 'challenge' and these guys, I let loose of. I think it is kind of a dangerous game (or can be.) It's addictive as hell.. (did I say I was weak?) If YOU had to go totally without sex for years and years tho... (no, already divorced him once..it's a long sad story. I stay for my ll year old kid's benefit and just 'talk'.. that's all it is..?) or IS it? (hell, am I asking a question here or answering it! lmao.. peace-n-luv
2006-11-02 09:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, general chat in an open chat room where everyone can see, hear whats going on is just plain fun.
However, its when one starts to get personal with others, in instant messaging, or private chats etc etc, that can be the start of trouble.
2006-11-02 09:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter what you call it? The only thing that really matters is if your significant other is ok with it or not. If your partner would have a problem with a certain (sex-related) activity you do behind their back, then it could potentially be labeled "adultery".
2006-11-02 09:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only if you are chatting in a way that could be considered adultery like talking dirty to someone online that sort of thing
2006-11-02 09:30:19 · answer #10 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely adultery - emotional adultery at least. It can and does destroy trust and respect in the marriage.
2006-11-02 10:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋