My husband and I have been together for 5 years, for the past 2 years I have wanted a baby so much it drives me crazy.
We have decided to finally start trying after the New Year.
My friend has known her husband for a little under two years, she is now 5 months pregnant. I am trying to be happy for her, but sometimes I feel jealous and sad that I don't have a baby yet. Its hard for me to get into her pregnancy stories when I have been waiting for years to have a baby with my husband.
I feel like a horrible friend and I know as soon as I am pregnant I won't be jealous anymore. We had to wait to get pregnant until we bought a house. Now we have it and its time to start!
Is it horrible to be jealous of a friend's pregnancy?
2006-11-02 09:26:26 · 24 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No, your feelings are natural. Been through that myself.
The best way to work through these negative feelings is to tell yourself that, for everything there is a time and purpose. Your blessed child, a gift from God if you will, has yet to arrive. When your time comes, it will be all the more special to you, for having waited and looked forward to the baby for so long.
I♥♫→mia☼☺†
2006-11-02 09:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, its not bad. I am in the same position. I had a friend who had a child and complained all the time and swore she didn't want to have another one because she couldn't handle it then I told her I was going to start trying to have a child and she did a 180 and decided to start trying. I have some issues getting pregnant so I don't know when its going to happen for me but she got pregnant the first month she tried and I was so hurt and angry. Here is someone that does not embrace being a Mom and she gets pregnant right away and all I ever wanted was to be a Mom and it may not be possible for me...so yeah, I am a little angry and resentful and no...I don't like feeling this way. I don't want to be that angry bitter person but I don't know how to let it go. So I am just saying that I understand how you feel but I do know I have to get over it because its not her fault that I am not super fertile and she is.
2006-11-04 14:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by tiana2244 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand the way that you feel. i wanted a baby more than anything and three of my friends were all having babies due at the same time. like you my husband wanted to be settled into our own home before we started a family. I hated going over to their houses and I didn't want to know about their pregnancys. When we moved into our home I fell prettty much straight away. I now have 2 beautiful boys and i feel so mean for acting the way I did to my friends. When you fall pregnant you will realise what a wonderful, specail thing it is and it is so woth the wait. I guess what I am trying to say is be patient, enjoy your friends pregnancy and she will do the same for you when you become pregnant. Whenever you see her be excited for her and remember that its not too far away that you will be sharing your excitement with her.
2006-11-02 09:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by mountain girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave birth to my son 10 months ago and I have a friend who has become very jealous. She's 36, her clock is a ticking away and she hasn't really found the right guy yet. Anyways we used to be the best of friends. She was the person I always went to for support. After I had my son she barely even talks to me anymore. Never comes over and has only seen my son 2 times since he was born. It hurts me terribly to not have her around.
You should be there for your friend. No you are not a horrible person for feeling the way you do! But don't let your jealousies get in the way of your friendship. I bet if you just talk to her about how you feel it will ease alot of the jealosy.
Best wishes!
2006-11-02 09:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly normal. I felt a twinge of jealousy when my younger sister became pregnant when I was facing the realization that I never would be. (I'm now 37 weeks pregnant and my sister's child is about 4 months old.)
I agree with an earlier poster. Don't tell your friend your feelings. Or if you do, tell her you are really happy for her, but it makes your longing all the more intense.
Good luck to you. Don't become too obsessed about becoming pregnant. My other sister is totally obsessed about getting pregnant with her second child. I think the stress is hampering her. I didn't get pregnant until I had given up on the idea.
2006-11-02 09:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by tianjingabi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are a bit jealous (they may not admit it, but they are) even if they have 4 children it is the idea of having a brand new little one, my sister in law got horribly jealous when I was pregnant with my daughter (she has 2 sons) she was mean to me & gave me blue baby clothes at my baby shower & told me boys run in the family & not to trust my OB< I was having a boy. She rufused to see my daughter for the first 2 months, It was nuts! But just be her friend & know in the back of your head that someday soon you will have a little one of your own & she will be looking at your baby thinking wow my baby is huge now! LOL
2006-11-02 09:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 06:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by likins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be very normal. I miscarried and my hubby's cousin had a baby a few weeks earilier and I was very jealous. Jealuos to the point that I wouldn't even talk to her for like amonth and we are the best of friends. This was a few years ago and I have gotten over it but it can be very hard to look at other people who have children and you are having a hard time getting pregnant. Talk to your hubby or someone you trust really well. I call these my venting sessions. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 09:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to feel that way, but your time will come. I'm in the same boat as you are. It seems that everyone around me is having unexpected pregnancies. They're single & really can't afford to feed another mouth. My husband & I have been TTC for 1 year and 9 months with no luck. I'll keep you in my prayers. *Baby Dust to you
2006-11-02 09:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by ladycddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you are feel. my husband and i have been wanting a baby for the past 9 years. and all of my friends are pregant or have kids. i feel sick to my stomach when i have to go to a baby shower. i am really jealous of my friends. you are not a bad person for feeling this way you are only human. just keep your head up. you will soon have the baby you want! i know it is hard but from someone that feels the same way you do. have faith.
2006-11-02 09:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by latinmamii2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋