can u plz help i need ur advice?

Question

I am kinda new to school and every1 h8s me cuz of that,and i really wnt to b friends wiv them but they keep embarrassing me and saying nasty stuff and its not easy to live wiv all those people being horrible 2 u i cnt take it,i am a really nice friend 2 any1 but they don know that,i wnt 2 b friends with them but they just h8 me,they dont even know my personality and i`m always alone in every seat and people just keep laughing i cnt take it,its never happened like this b4 2 me, and i dont know wat to do every 1 in the class has a best friend so theres no 1 to b my best friend,its like i`m left out and alone,and theres this girl who trys to make me laugh by doing a silly face,and when i laugh with them she says DONT LAUGH ITS NOT FUNNY!!,they always try to set me up,and i dont know wat 2 do and if i b rude bck wats the point i havent even got a friend in my class that likes 2 stick up 4 me ,and its a horrible feeling.I am in yr 9 and i wish people would just understand i am new, plz help

Answer 1

Aah you poor thing. This is where I tell you that old cliche that it will make you stronger but only if you believe it. It's still a positive thing to go through this I promise you. It will give you a different perspective in life and this will help you to mature. First of all, work really hard at school even if you have to do less in class to appear cool but you swot up at home when noone is looking! Make friends with unusual people as this will make the cool gang wonder why you choose to be friends with people other than them! Be strong, talk to your parents and keep the school informed of bullying. Can you join any after school clubs or any other clubs out of school to make other friends or indeed with anyone who lives near? Maybe walking to and from school with someone.
Dont try too hard you shouldnt have to beg fopr friendship rate yourself higher than that you are worth more.
I hope youre ok.

Answer 2

Theyre only bullies and bullies are the real cowards. Its hard but ignore it, they'll get bored soon enough. Speak to your teacher. Not sure what age you are as i'm north of the border and dont have yr 9 etc, but i'm guessing your at high school. Are there any clubs you can join. I do Girl Guides, maybe a good place to start, whilst learning life skills you'll also make new friends who will also be at high school. People at clubs like this are good people and we simply wouldnt stand for it. If you're over 14 then we can still use you as a Young Leader, where you will help with a Guide Unit and still meet people of your age. Give it a go. What have you got to lose? Everything to gain, show them what you';re made of. Chin up. XX

Answer 3

Being the new person in school is never an easy thing. Unfortunately there is probably no clear cut advice on how to make people like you.

The best thing is to be yourself and hopefully over time the other students will see you are a nice person and become friends with you.

In the meantime follow your own interests and get involved in some of the extra curricular activities at your school. It might help you meet new friends. Many schools have student advise services, possibly operated by other students, talk to them to see if they can help.

Answer 4

do u know what forget everyone. Your at a age where u will feel especially lonely and hate the feeling of being lonely. Trust me ive been through it all and still go through these stages and im only 17. If u cant make friends in ur own class. Try introducing ureself to other people in other classes. One tip,is be confident and flatter the person u talk to. It worked for me. I just moved from my secondary school to another secondaery school to join 6th form and im aware its hard. But it just takes time...be patient. If ur struggling to make friends in other classes. Try make friends with the younger lot in the year below u or the older lot. Having a vast variety of friend of different ages helps alot. If that still doesnt work.Ask ur teacher to arrange a buddy scheme in which they can show u around...remember teachers are there to help.hope all goes well.. AND GUD LUK

Answer 5

If it helps, I was bullied at school (every day for four years, I was bullied) so I know what you're going through. I'm not saying you should, but I grew to accept it, (basically because I'd be leaving at the end of the 5th year.) However, the best thing you can do is join in with a few conversations, or start a club of some sort, you never know, it may work out for you (and its a good way to get to know people) That's what I did, because I was good at painting models, one morning I brought them in and during lunch break, I started painting sessions with people (Teaching them how to paint models, giving them tips and advice, showing them how to shade the model) and it worked, people began to respect me and kept asking for my advice when it came to painting!

I hope that helps!

Answer 6

I feel so sad for you. My daughter who is thirteen was also getting bullied and her heart was broken as was mine.However i approached the school and they dealt with it she is ok now. Perhaps you could speak to your guidance teacher. Also why don't you see if there are local clubs in your area that you can join and that way you would meet new people. Do you have a sibling that you could go with.

Good Luck Hope you feel better soon and make some friends

Answer 7

Oh babe i really feel for you. People are cruel at your age, especially to the new girl. They don't hate you they're just being twats and you're the easiest person to pick on. Don't rise to it and sooner or later they'll get bored. Don't talk to them as a group because even if one of them does want to talk to you or be nice to you they won't because of peer presure. there must be one of them who's decent, concentrate on trying to make friends with that person. If you seem too desperate they'll carry on taking the piss because they'll feel they have power over you. It's a shame you have to resort to classroom politics but that's how school is unfortunately. I'm sure you'll make friends soon, take care.

Answer 8

Tht sounds really awful, you sound like a lovely girl. Just keep being yourself, no matter what. Never change to try and fit in. Why dont you just try talking to who looks like the kindest group of girls and just ask them something about themselves, like what are you up to at the weekend? Or just ask them if you can hang around with them as you're new to school. I'm sure they'll soon want to be friends with them, just be yourself and you'll win them over. Good luck! xxx

Answer 9

dont worry, they are just trying to suss u out. u know? see what ur like and how u react. when they do something mean just tell them u dont think its very funny and that u didnt do anything to deserve it. dont drop to their level by being mean back. u seem too nice for that. try to lighten the mood wen there nasty, come back with someting funny and make them laugh. they will soon see u for the person u are. good luck hun. x

Answer 10

i had the same problem, what i did was i totally ignored them and concentrated on my studys and i began to get very good marks, people in the class would either bully me or they would ask me how i did a certain question, this continued for about 2 months until a girl came up to me and asked for my help, i did, and after a while she began to talk to me outside class time and we became friends in to end. you just have to stick at it or else they win.