my son is 15. his dad died when he was 8 and so i don't have any help. nor do i trust any other male figure. he's having sex now and i just don't know what to do.
2006-11-02 08:49:40 · 7 answers · asked by hampton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you thought about big brothers/big sisters. They are a great organization and could really help out in your situation. It is extremely important that you get some type of male role model in his life.
Reports show that approximately 85% of youth in prison, 85% of children with behavioral disorders, 75% of adolescents in substance abuse treatment centers, 71% of all high school dropouts, and 70% of adults serving long-term prison sentences come from fatherless homes. Fatherless children average significantly higher in terms of teen suicide, illegitimate birthrates, incarceration and unemployment. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 85% of all children that exhibit serious behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. Because only a portion of each age group grew up in a fatherless home, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse drugs, 20 times more likely to end up in prison and to have behavioral disorders, and 32 times more likely to run away than their peers who grow up in intact families with both birth parents. These trends persist even when socioeconomic factors are controlled for.
2006-11-02 08:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he isn't having sex regular. this is a dangerous cycle to get into at such a young age.
If he is then try and make sure he sticks to the one girl. You can then buy him lots of condoms and put them in his drawer in the room. Buy good ones not the free ones that smell of rubber for weeks.
Tell him the health centre was giving them away.
give him space, do not approach the subject unless he brings it up. The more you press him the more he will clamp up.
If he knows you are supporting him then that would be good. By supporting him you are not agreeing that he should be doing what he is doing you are there for him to appraoch on anything.
You have to keep that bond. Im sorry you have had to play both roles, I can only imagine how hard it is.
2006-11-02 08:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 yo son and I'm a single mom, too. My heart goes out to you. Do you have a brother, father, or even religious leader that you are comfortable with? Maybe a girlfriend's hubby or brother?Sounds like he really need a mentor. Good luck...
2006-11-02 08:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Forgot How 2 Show Him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to him, after all you had him, so you do know about sex, l would push the safe sex, and explain about HIV and so on, along with what happens if he does get a girl pregnant
2006-11-02 08:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about the dangers of STD's and buy him some condoms. Tell him to make sure he uses them.
2006-11-02 08:53:05 · answer #5 · answered by Brad T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My two go to church and get active in youth groups. They are taught right right from wrong and are very happy knowing they please our creator.
2006-11-02 08:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by white dove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.fatherville.com/
2006-11-02 08:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋