I stay on campus, 45min away from my mom and I came to visit the weekend. I went out and told her where I was going and who I was going to be with (my boyfriend). I came back at 2am instead of 1am and she was so pissed off she told me I had to leave in the morning. I am 22 years old!!! She told me she was frustrated but I have to still be in by a certain time when I come visit and go out. I feel like she is treating me like a child, but should I just get over it. Everyone tells me she's wrong but their mom doesn't help them as much as mine. She pays for college, my bills, groceries, etc. Do I even have a right to complain??? or should I just shut up and be thankful- @ least until I graduate in May and move out.
2006-11-02 08:27:01 · 12 answers · asked by Crazy Gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'M 23 AND I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND. I DON'T LIVE WITH MY MOTHER, I HAVE MY OWN PLACE. IF YOU WERE ONLY AN HOUR LATE THAN I DONT SEE THE BIG DEAL, AND YOU DID TELL HER WHO U WERE GOING TO BE WITH AND GAVE ALL THE DETAILS. BUT YOU GOT TO ALSO REMEMBER YOU WERE UNDER YOUR MOMS HOUSE. SHE JUST DON'T WANT YOU TO GROW UP, THAT'S ALL.. U R HER BABY!
2006-11-02 08:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
she was wrong she should give you a key so she doesn't have to wait up for you and get pissed off while she is at it. She need to start respecting you as an adult and if the only reason you respect her is because she can blackmail you with her support that I'm sorry in my book that is not love and to put you out?? What is that about?? I would never set a foot in her house ever again once your mother lets you know you are not welcome in your own home its time to realize that she never loved you. She was paying for everything your whole life so that she would not have to really deal with you on an emotional and physical level.You are 22 maybe she is jealous that her youth is gone and that you still have your life ahead of you. You know mothers and daughters can have all sorts of bit*hy issues.
2006-11-02 08:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be thankful..not until you graduate..just thankful. When you are staying under someone else's roof, no matter who it is, you have to go with their rules. Just because you are an adult doesn't mean you get to decide the rules for your mother's home. If you stay on campus anyway, there should be no real problem with respecting her wishes when you are visiting with her because its not like you have to do it when you are @ school. You are never to grown to give your mom the respect she asks for.
2006-11-02 08:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by qtprsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her house, and while you're there, you live by the house rules, regardless of their fairness. Even though my girlfriend and I had been living together for five years, and my folks had stayed with us, because they disapproved, if we had stayed under their roof (we always got a room elsewhere) we would have been in separate rooms. Unreasonable, but the way they believed was right. Fair enough.
Shut up and be thankful, graduate, move out.
2006-11-02 08:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by lowflyer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, that sucks! I guess though since she is paying for everything and you are technically staying at her house, she has a right to put rules over your head and expect you to obey them. She is still your mom after all. But I totally understand your complaints, that is just weird for her to be so controlling when you are 22 years old!
2006-11-02 08:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be thankful for having such a great mother. If you feel like you're being treated like a child then leave. A lot of parents send their kids packing after their eighteenth birthday. She had every right to be angry...
2006-11-02 08:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if she is footing the bill then when you are in her home you should respect her wishes. I would also suggest that you sit and talk with her about curfew, as you are no longer a teenager. Here again, I would do so with respect and maintain a calm voice.
2006-11-02 08:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's still her house, no matter how old you are you have to respect her rules or pay the consequences, Especially if she is supporting you financially. You can be upset, but i don't think you have any grounds to complain.
2006-11-02 08:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl just shut up and be thankful she is helping you out. If you are graduating in May and moving out on your own then just live with it and make the best of it
2006-11-02 08:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother was completely justified in light of your displayed disrespect for her and her wishes.
If you take her assistance, you play by her rules... especially when staying at her house. If you can't/won't play by her rules, than steer clear.
2006-11-02 08:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by andalucia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋